My daughter is being bullied at school. She is now 8, started at this school in January of Year 2, so was at a disadvantage to begin with. She was taken under the wing of 3 girls who were lovely and looked after her, but was separated from them when they went in to Year 3. The 2 girls who seem to have it in for her have not got on with her since she started. In year 2 they didn't have much to do with each other, but this changed in year 3, where they seemed to single her out and bitch at her (your hair's a bit messy isn't it?, your skirt's a bit short etc etc etc). She seems now to have been effectively separated from other friends, though she is on the School Council, and I hear in a roundabout way that most of the girls (and boys) rather like her. Last term these 2 girls and their parents were summoned into a meeting because of their behaviour (not just directed at my dd then), and things improved a bit. DD invited them to her birthday party in August - one couldn't even be bothered to let us know whether she was coming or not (she didn't), the other came and behaved pretty normally. This one was then invited over to play for an afternoon about a week later - dd's reasoning was that it they got to know each other a bit better maybe this girl wouldn't be so horrid to her. Anyway, it didn't work - as soon as they were back at school the two started up again. At the school disco a few weeks ago they confronted dd and made many bitchy comments about her clothes, for instance. This is on-going. DD is now fighting back - last week a comment was made by them that dd was a bit pink in the face, dd responded that she hoped nn wasn't getting a cold as her nose was almost bright red! Not the greatest response, but a great start. They walked off in silence and shock.
This has come to a head this morning. DD was going through the litany - too tired for school, feeling sick etc, but suddenly threw herself into my arms and cried like her heart was breaking. She said liked school, she loves her teachers, but these two are just horrible and she was the unhappiest girl in the world. She was far too distraught to go to school, so dh took her for walk on the beach, while I went into school (it's my morning to read with the kids). I told her teacher that dd was too distraught to come to school, but it was gone 9.30 and she was in the middle of numeracy with no classroom assistant and we couldn't have an extended conversation. She did tell me that these two girls had behaved extremely badly on Friday and that my dd had borne the brunt of it; that the two girls had been severely told off; that she would speak to them again about their behaviour this morning (she did, I saw her).
When dd and dh came home fromthe beach I asked whta had happened on fRiday but dd seems to have blanked it from her memory. I want to go back to the school at the end of the day and collar her teacher to get details. Also, I don't think that simply telling these girls off is enough now. This is consistent persistent meanness, which is making school a misery for my dd. I think this should now be taken more seriously.
Does anyone have any thoughts or advice on this?