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DD and behaviour

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WoddleWoddleMyBelly · 15/03/2021 18:45

DD is 6, Year 2

Precovid school described her as: happy, shy of strangers but a chatter box when you got to know her. She was academically behind but has some additional needs (hearing, eyesight and motor delay issues which also cause problems with walking and running, as well as some facial deformities which cause speech issues) but she was well managed at school, had loads of friends and was generally happy. She absolutely loved school despite struggling.

Now she’s back at school I’m getting called daily. Incidences include; her throwing things – not at anyone just at the ground but it’s sometimes hit another child, refusing to do her work, encouraging her friends to talk during class, drawing on the walls in the toilets etc. She now absolutely hates it, we battle to get her in every morning. She can’t verbalise exactly what she hates. She’s coming home and then having violent meltdowns where I get hit and kicked, mornings she can take over an hour to walk the half a mile to school.

She missed half of November and all of December due to medical treatment so she’s now spent more time at home in the last year than she has at school so it’s no wonder she’s struggling. But school and myself are keen to help her resettle.

Any ideas? School have said her behaviour at the moment isn’t dangerous and it more silly at the moment but I am worried she’ll get worse and become violent. I just want her to resettle and feel as happy as she was before.

Home situation in case it helps; I’m a single parent, ExH has DD EO Saturday atm but in normal times has her overnight at his parents.

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itsgettingwierd · 15/03/2021 18:49

Has school tried visual reminder cards?

Eg no talking or working quietly.

Sometimes children with additional needs need a reminder because too much information causes an overload and they can't remember what they should be doing so just do anything!

If she's upset with going in she probably feels overwhelmed herself and knows she's getting into trouble which will damage her self esteem and it'll come a vicious cycle.

So anything like a reward system broken into small chunks, visual timers clear instructions is a good place to start.

Do you work? Could you have her home for lunch or even just half days until Easter to allow her a chance to slowly reintegrate positively?

WoddleWoddleMyBelly · 15/03/2021 18:51

@itsgettingwierd

Has school tried visual reminder cards?

Eg no talking or working quietly.

Sometimes children with additional needs need a reminder because too much information causes an overload and they can't remember what they should be doing so just do anything!

If she's upset with going in she probably feels overwhelmed herself and knows she's getting into trouble which will damage her self esteem and it'll come a vicious cycle.

So anything like a reward system broken into small chunks, visual timers clear instructions is a good place to start.

Do you work? Could you have her home for lunch or even just half days until Easter to allow her a chance to slowly reintegrate positively?

I'm on furlough until next Monday then back in the office 2 days a week, school have said she can't go home for lunch as she's not allowed to come and go due to covid (they have the same rule for appointments they have to miss part of the day or come in late etc atm) but I can suggest half days, she is very tired coming out so it might help.
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