dd (reception) been hit by classmate (small history)

[pinklemonade84]

A few weeks ago dd suddenly started getting really upset going into school and wouldn't tell us why. To the extent of her teaching assistant having to come and take her off me and carry her into school one day

A few days after it all started, she mentioned that a boy in her class (we'll call him George) had been shaking her and pushing her. I mentioned it to her teacher and he said he would keep an eye on things for me. He brought it up in our video parents evening call and said that dd is friends with this boy and maybe sometimes she is quick to get offended. I wasn't overly happy with the response as I felt like my concerns were being brushed off, but I'd finally got her back into a routine of being happy to go into school

Tonight, when I got dd in the car, she turned to me really sad and said "George hit me at home time mummy".

I'm not sure how to proceed with this as I don't want to be making a fuss over nothing. But, on the other hand, my daughter is coming out of school saying these things are happening and that it's always the same boy, never any of the others

I would ask DD about the whole story of hitting.

At that age many boys are still not good at talking and push or hit instead of speaking out. So, it would be worth to ask your DD what they were doing and talking before his offensive behaviour. If he suddenly hit her without anything, I would speak to form tutor again.

She's such a shy thing too that she won't tell the teacher when these things happen, which would probably make it easier for it to be monitored. Apparently if she's upset, she'll go and stand by the teacher, but won't tell him why

Reception aged kids are notoriously bad for behaviour like this. I wouldn't take offence at the teachers comments - they're still very much learning to regulate at that age. In an ideal world the teacher should be working with the parents of the boy to ensure he understands appropriate behaviour but obviously you won't know about that. I would absolutely agree they should keep an eye on it and help your dd to develop robust tools to cope as well as helping the boy manage his own possibly poor impulses.
It's a tricky age for this sort of stuff. My dd went through the same.

I think if she hadn't commented that the same boy had shook and pushed her before I'd be more inclined to put it down to a one time thing. But, it's always him, never any of the other boys

She mentioned it in the car again this morning saying that she didn't want to sit next to him at home time, so I'm really close to asking for it to be monitored. I don't want to over react as I do get that some kids have trouble managing their emotions at this age, but I also don't want dd thinking that I don't believe her or don't take what she says seriously