voilence.why havent i gone?

[quiet]

everything tells me i should leave this man,he said only last week that he,ll kill the children when i said i ws going to leave-he hit,s me at least every couple of months,and when he does i swear i will leave him,come the morning, i try and rationalise,and think that maybe i,m just too stressed out and given him so much grief that theres no other way for him to react-i do scream and shout.rationally all i know is that he shouldn,t hit me-but i cant think past that and havn,t left yet.i have 2 dd and i know although he spends no time with them he went let me go in peace-he,ll hunt me down i,m sure-he,s from a different culture and i dont know whre to go.

Do you have any friends or family nearby?

you could google 'women's refuge' for your local area - they would be able to offer advice

Quiet sorry to hear of your prediciment, it sounds like you need professional help/advice. Nothing you could ever do can be an excuse for your partner to hit you.

You have posted this in the education section so it may not be seen by too many people. So perhaps you could re-post it into 'relationships' and then more informed people may be able to help.

Ring the police - if not for you then for your dds. They will give you advice. PLEASE

yes.but i dont know what to say.

quiet, could you take your girls and go and stay with friends/family for a couple of days.
once away from home, you will be able to work out what steps to take next.

The Women's Aid helpline is 0808 2000 247 - they can give you information about refuges etc.

No matter how stressed out he gets he should not hit you or threaten to kill the children.

quiet, tell them what you have written here. They will ask you what they need to know xx

this is my flat,my daughters just started school and now i feel extremely stuck,if i end this relationship then i have to totally move on-my family all live near by and i,m worried for them too-

This is an awful situation for you to be in - perhaps you could spend a weekend away, take some professional advice and try to work out what you want to do in a less pressured environment.

thanks for the womens aid number,i will call them,he,s never hit the children or i certainly wouldn,t be here,but he shouts and he hit,s so he,s not good for them to be around i know.

Quiet, your partner sounds like the worst kind of abusive bully and it is in no way your fault. You need to get out now, the police will help you and your family get the protection you need. The first step would be to contact the police and/or Women's Aid, later on you can get restraining orders if there is any threat to you or your family.

Can you stay with your family for a while, there's safety in numbers and not much one man can do against many of you.

Quiet, you deserve as much protection and respect as your children do. And you should not feel guilty for his appalling behaviour.

quiet, where do you want to be 6 months from now? Visualise that if you can - own place, feeling safe, happy dds- then try and work back to now as to how you can achieve it. Little steps, people want to help.

thanks you lovely people.tried to call womens aid,will have to go to web sight-your reinforcing that this isn,t where i should be in my life-thanks-i just feel so confused as to whats best for us all-