Anxious son

[Lollypig]

Hi I’m at a bit of a loose end here. My 10 year old son is quiet. He’s always got on with all his teachers throughout primary school. He’s in p6 now Scotland. He’s been having stomach pains for months now. Spoke to the doctor. But he’s confided to me his teacher is picking on him. I knew he wasn’t keen on his teacher since August. He dosent want to go to school in the morning. He’s saying she moans about his school work and other things. I’m going to email her to ask if there is a problem. I won’t go guns blazing obviously. How do I word it? Help

I wouldn't write the details of your concerns in an email. I'd email the teacher to request a conversation (probably over the phone in Covid times). It will be easier to ask the teacher how she feels he's doing, and also explain that your DS is experiencing some physical symptoms of anxiety, and ask whether there's something you and/or the teacher can do to reassure him.

Yes that sounds better than an email. I feel quite angry about it all to tell you the truth. I know I can’t go in guns blazing. His friends mum has these concerns too. There is only 5 boys in the class and 25 girls and he says or feels like the teacher likes the girls more. I know I’m only hearing it from a ten year olds view but he’s a good boy, never in trouble, quiet. When he’s sitting in the car crying in the morning not wanting to go into school it’s quite concerning. Thanks I’ll arrange the phone meeting