Am I being overprotective? Be honest!

[boymamma23]

Hi everyone! This is my first post so here it goes....
My son has just started reception and I have noticed one of the TAs is particularly stern with him. Here's some examples- on his second day of school he was a bit teary saying goodbye and she told him that was enough and he is in big school now. SECOND DAY! Today he was leaving and he said goodbye Ms. X. She never said goodbye to him and said - I'm a Mrs, not Ms. My DS was embarrassed and asked me why she said that to him once we got in the car.
I want to add my son has a speech disorder so the S sound is difficult for him hence why he finds shortcuts like 'mizz' instead Of using mrS. I don't know if I should address this with her or not? I don't want to be THAT parent being 'overprotective' only 2 months into the term!
She is in charge of giving his speech therapy support and I worry about her approach.
Please tell me if you think I'm being overprotective or not? What would you do?

Thank you for your help!

If those are your only two incidents in two months and your son hasn't raised any concerns about how she treats him day to day then I would definitely leave it.

I think the fact you are asking shows you know you are ever slightly overly protective. But that's absolutely to be expected. Reception is such a significant first step for the little ones. A fundamental change of setting from nursery.

Personally I would sit back and observe a bit more. As a parent it is in your best interest to ensure your children have the smoothest transition to the big school. If the TA does anything else or persistently criticise your child for no good reason, appear to be irritable towards the children etc then you have a solid complaint on your hand.

Also chat with other parents, especially ones who had older children. Someone would be able to shed some light on this TA's personality and track record.

on his second day of school he was a bit teary saying goodbye and she told him that was enough and he is in big school now.

Sometimes a no-nonsense approach can be exactly what's needed when a child is tearful saying goodbye. The 'there there' approach sounds nicer but can often prolong the crying.

She never said goodbye to him and said - I'm a Mrs, not Ms.
That sounds a bit mean. At our school everyone calls us "Miss" even if we're a "Mrs" or a "Ms". The little ones often get our surnames wrong too - sometimes with amusing results. :o

She is in charge of giving his speech therapy support and I worry about her approach.
I would separate her personality from her ability to do a good job. Even the nicest, friendliest TAs have got to be stern sometimes in order to do their job effectively.

At this stage I would leave it and see how your son gets on in general and with his speech therapy support.

She's had two months with him, supposedly giving him speech therapy surely she knows about his Ms muzzzz mrS issues?

How happy is he going in to school now?

Does he say much about her?

I'd want to knock her block off, so I don't think you're alone in your reaction.

Perhaps they had worked on the Mrs word and he was being reminded. It’s her preferred title and perhaps he did actually know how to say her name if he sees her all the time.

Ms people are very swift to tell you it’s Ms.