I don't WANT a parent helper to write comments about dd1's reading in her reading book!

[pilote]

Is she a teacher? NO! Am I being totally unreasonable to ask her teacher who this person is and what her qualifications are? The TA already does most of the reading and handwriting practice with dd1, what is her bloody teacher doing all day fgs.

You really believe that? You are being a touch naive.

Hulababy it is a small primary school with mixed year groups - 17 year 3's and 8 year 4's - two full time teachers, one TA and random parent helper woman

Parent Helper doesn't = Slave To Do Your Bidding, I'm afraid. Ban your daughter from reading to anyone but the teacher, if you really want to scupper her education for the sake of being special.

IMO pilote that is entirely a different scenario. This woman has been allowed into the classroom by prearrangement, has probably had some explanation of what to do, what to write and how the reading process works, and may even have some experience of this type of thing (at very least of she has a child in Y2 she has three years worth of personal experience).

yes of course hana - I trust those comments more if they are from qualified teachers who I, and dd1, know.

yes I may do that colditz. takes all sorts eh!

OK, sorry I can't keep up here!
You clearly have concerns about your child's reading, fair enough - go speak to the teacher about it! Ranting about a parent helper won't help at all, will it? It sounds like displaced frustration.

DD is in year one. I don't think she's ever been heard reading by her teacher actually.

There's a TA, and i go in once a week and hear the children read. While i'm doing that, she's teaching. I don't think it matters who hears them read actually, they're not getting an in depth report on their reading progress and performance, they're just practicing their reading. I don't really see your point.

At Year 3 and 4 ds wasn't even reading one to one every day .

Yes I will chat to the teacher in the morning, at the very least to find out what the helpers name is

Fine, if you are really that upset by it, tell the teacher you do not want this parent to listen to your child to read in future. But you must accept that this may mean that your child is listen to (reading aloud) less often than she currently is.

I can't see how the teacher can write the comments about your child's reading that day unless he/she has heard her read. And in most classroom situations a good classroom teacher simply won't have the time to hear every child read daily.

bloody hell she can practice her reading at home with me! I'd much rather she was actually being taught something.

Do the comments ring true? If so I would see the teacher about your daughters reading. If they dont fit with what you know about her reading I would dismiss them. Whilst my first reaction is that you are being a bit precious, I might well feel defensive in the same position. But I really think you need to steel yourself against this stuff because there will be loads more of this type of thing through her education.

If someone did that on a train - I'd think ohh brilliant that is what I need to do next.

Are you worried about your child? Do you feel this parent helper is judging you? I too want to know why there are 2 teachers and a TA in one class - very strange.

I think you should feel pleased someone is offering you a way to improve your dd's reading, rather than just saying she has heard it.

SO YES you are BU!

x post. I think it is a good idea for you to go and see the teacher for her to clarify the position better for you.

her class teachers have never written in her reading book

Interesting that you're more concerned by the helper's name than possible issues with your child's reading.

this has to be a piss take

and her comments are possibly as much pointers for when the teacher does hear her herself as criticisms. Presumably if they said she was fluent, expressive and finding the level no challenge so needed moving up , you'd have no such issue ?

Am amazed that you have got to year 3 (or 4) without having (or realising) that there are parent helpers listening to readers, I was assuming this was a reception child.
If the comments are nasty then I would say something, if they are pointing out issues, suggesting pointers etc then I don't get your problem - it is NOTHING like some nosey bint on the train sticking her nose in.

would it not be more constructive to ask the teacher ?
You do say that someone asked you who she was a week or so ago!
What are you waiting for?

well it's not me as I help in dd's school in year 6. As it happens I am a teacher (secondary). I've been ASKED to write comments, I'm sure the kids and most parents apreciate that their kid is having this time

I am about ten steps behind....mainly because I am really puzzled by your attitude.....

chasing squirrels they dont have parent helpers in the lower years