good books about friendships

[julesrose]

Can anyone reccomend any good story books for 4 year old dd about dealing with friendships when they go wrong, making friends etc. Thank you!

the selfish crocodile is good.
it's about a grumpy croc who is mean to other animals.
then he gets toothache and a little mouse saves the day.

not specifically what you want but no others spring to mind. you can buy it in waterstones

Frog and the Stranger is good for making new friends I think, it deals with how people think of new people, and shows that you should give new people a chance to be your friend. Not sure about how one for when a friendship goes wrong, although I think I will need one for my DD soon.

Aliki's Feelings is old but good on the subject not so much of friendships per se, but on other people's feelings and how they might behave because of them

hello this is my first ever post on here. hope it turns out okay but forgive me if I mess it up.
I was reading this forum hoping to get some ideas about friendships at school. I have a little girl in year 2. She has had a best friend at school since Reception. Although I tried to encourage other friendships she was always happy with this friend and is very shy and not made other friends. When I invited others around it was embarassing how they didnt really interact.
Now in the last few weeks this best friend has found a new best friend (this followed a change around in the school classes). She has told my daughter she doesnt want to play with her anymore. She apparantly said her NBF is her "number one" and my daughter is her "number two". It has been hard for me to see my daughter so upset at being excluded from this new friendship. I hoped it would improve - it seemed to get better last week until I discovered that the NBF had been on holiday and so this girl had just played with my daughter again until the NBF came back - then dumped her again. I cant believe how angry I can feel about a 6 year old treating my little girl like that - I keep telling myself she is only a child.
Anyway sorry this is such a long post but yesterday my daughter said to me - "I dont have anyone to play with anymore but at lunchtime I played with my shadow" - she is so unhappy now compared with how she was before. I just wonder if there is anything I can do to help her. She has siblings/others to play with at home - just not at school.

If you are concerned about whether your child is making friends - then try this:

www.amazon.co.uk/Unwritten-Rules-Friendship-Strategies-Friends/dp/0316917303/ref=sr_1_4/026-2904621- 4799607?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1192544833&sr=8-4

Your dd is probably a bit young but it really makes fascinating reading and might help you in how you talk about friendship and deal with her "issues" - if she has any.
Have found it very useful with my socially inept 6 year old DS1.

thanks for all your suggestions. I am supprised there aren't well known books that involve little children and the art of making friends...maybe it's a gap in the market! Maisykin, sorry to hear about your dd, really not sure what to advise - perhaps create a new post as you could probably get lots of good advice.

Hello Maisykin. Welcome to Mumsnet. I just started a thread today in the parenting topic about my DS, nearly 6 having no friends at school. There's too much pressure to be popular etc.It's heartbreaking though isn't it, when you feel things aren't going well for them?

The advice I got on MN was good. Often DC will say they have few friends when it is just not the case. I am trying to be as positive as I can for my DS. I don't think they all have to have all these many friends. Also it is true that friendships change constantly at this age and all through life.

Your DD will be fine Maisykin. She already has a caring, thoughtful Mum to guide her through.

Hello Maisykin. I went through a similar situation with my DD (now in Year 4) at a similar age and I know how horrible it is for you. I agree with mimizan that you don't always get the full truth from them though.

I got very busy inviting as many different girls in DD's class round to tea on a regular basis and over time this has really helped. I have found that the class dynamics between the girls changed a lot in Year 3, which is continuing through to Year 4 now and things are much better for DD.

Here - out of print unfortunately, some second hand ones on sale and the library may have it. Also "Friends Together" by the same author.

Thank you to those who replied to my post.
I guess I should have started a separate post - I might do that now in fact as I wanted to add to this one and ask if I should approach her teacher at all - so I will have a go at a new thread.
I might also look at one or two books suggested - have never used books for this sort of thing but maybe they might give me some suggestions.Thanks again.