Please tell me that I am right to go in and talk to dd's teacher about this

[StripeyKnickersSpottySocks]

I know I need to and am been stupid but have never had to go in and talk to a teacher like this before.

DD is in year 2 and has come back a couple f times with very damp trosers/knickers and smelling of wee. Never had a problem until this term.

I think she is totally wetting herself at school and not saying anything, by the time she gets home shes not soaking as its dried. I asked her why she's not going to the loo and she says that any kid who puts their hand up in class and asks to go to the loo is shouted at by the teacher. So I enquire as to what she means by shouting and the teacher says "yes, quickly" but fiercly accordding to dd. So now shes too scared to ask.

Oh and now shes started wetting herself at home as well.

The teacher's not going to shout at me is she

do it. your poor little DD. You're totaly right to do it.

Too right you should go in! frightening even one of the kids so much she would sooner wet herself than ask is not on. I know some kids take the piss(pardon the pun)at that age , but there's ways to deal with it - DS's school take the attitude that the infants will need to go more often than the older kids, so all the teachers do the 'stick your hand up if you want to go' thing and only take exception if someone is up and down like a jack in the box. Parents are all told to inform school of any problems such as infections so that allowances are made.
Works excellently! I'd wonder if the teacher isn't aware of how scary she is as well!
Lisa X

Ah bless, this is terrible. Don't want to think about how terrible she must have felt holding on and too scared to ask...

Go in, I feel very very sad

I'd also suggest going to your GP to make sure that she doesn't have a bladder infection, which is making her need more often. We had the same thing with DD.
Poor thing - imagine being shouted at because you need the loo

Ofcourse talk to the teacher. She's a human being and she will no doubt feel upset that a child is so nrevous of her she won't ask to go to the toilet.

I don't think she can be totally wetting herself because there would be puddles! The adults (and children) would notice wet clothing and seats etc. She must be doing her best to hold it in until playtime and lunchtime poor thing

Children should be encouraged to go at break times because as you can imagine lessons are completely disrupted if 30 are putting up their hands wanting the loo especially at carpet time so a teacher may have her own way of discouraging this. Also she may only be 'fierce' at the known time-wasters.

Of course you must go in, the teacher will probably be horrified that your dd is getting in a state because she is scared to ask. Good luck!