DD (nearly 10) has done a bad bit of homework - what should I do?

[Katymac]

She did it last night while I was out

I spotted it this morning

If I had supervised last night, it would have been neater and a bit more coherent.

Do I write in her homework diary, how upset I am by it or do I juat write she did it without supervision

(I must add, I don't help her with her homework, I just think being there affects what she condiers to be acceptable)

I decided to let dd1 do it (homework) or not, well or badly, and take the consequences (at worst detention-she would be devastated)-but she is only 7.

I have found myself lapsing into frequent reminder, and "explanation" mode (like "if you do some now, and a bit at the weekend, you won't sitting there for hours doing the whole lot at the last minute when you are tired after school").

She can't really be expected to set up her own routine, I guess. But I am not very well placed to do it for her! Poor kid.

As for morning torture, we also have WW3 every few weeks, then it calms down, then starts up again.

Ok what about just letting her not eat? She is 10, not 1. She won't die. It's hard for you to watch, and she should know that breakfast is the most important etc etc, but once you've said your piece-it's up to her.

What about when she is older and has to make her own decisions? wouldn't it be good to make some mistakes now when the consequences are lower.

I'v been trying to take this line, and it makes ME feel calmer (at least). Let them make mistakes, and grow up a little, and just DON'T say I told you so. Be supportive as you can-your job is different now she is 10.

I let ds1,10, take in an atrocious piece of homework the other week, I said very primly and VERY annoyingly, 'It's not good enough, you don't look like you've tried' and he said 'Stuff it.'

It came straight back again the next night.

And did I say tell-you-so, did I? Oh yes.

Oh and the teacher had written at the bottom, 'do this again to reflect your ability rather than your attitude please.'

I heart that teacher. He said 'don't SAY ANYTHING MORE.'

We're ganging up on him. Is rather fun, he is squirming in the middle muttering under his breath and chewing the end of his pencil. Hah.

well, you had to say ITYS in THAT situation!

I would.