Teacher picking on son

[Shopkinsdoll]

My sons always been a quiet sensitive boy he’s 10 in primary 6 Scotland. A few times he’s came home in tears saying his teacher keeps shouting at him for no reason. What do I do, he’s a good, well behaved boy. How do I approach this?

[TheSeedsOfADream]

Ask the teacher what's happening.

[billybagpuss]

You first need to get the teachers side of the story, there could have been something he was doing,albeit unintentionally that was irritating her, or something about what he was doing that she/he didn’t realise about him.

[LittleMissLockdown]

Talk to the teacher, they are the only one who is going to be able to answer your questions. Although if he's very sensitive I'd be wondering is it possible he's taking a teacher using a firm voice as shouting?

[FairFriday]

I’d ask the teacher - but assume that there’s more to this than he is saying!

Be specific about the days and what he has said. He could have just been caught messing around or talking in class and been told off (rather than yelled at) and that upset him.

[LaBellina]

Go to the teacher and ask.

If it doesn't solve anything, take it further.
But give the teacher a chance to give you their side of the story.

But....shouting at a child is not on. It has happened to me as a child when I was too slow in understanding the teachers explanation on mathematics and I still remember how small and unsafe it made me feel.

I would make it very clear that if this would happen again, I'd make an official complaint against said teacher.

[BigSandyBalls2015]

At that age my DDs idea of shouting was a very slightly raised voice! Talk to the teacher.

[QueenBlueberries]

Some teachers are more firm than others, and some have louder voices. DS had this in y5, he is a very well behaved boy with absolutely no problems at school and very good academic performance, yet the teacher had this policy of punishing the entire class for the bad behaviour of a few. DS spent the year upset at home, crying at bedtime, and we spoke to the school and teachers numerous times about it. Unfortunately, in our case, the teacher didn't change her approach as she thought she was right, but please speak directly to her (I know it's not easy) to start off with, then escalate. Do it quickly don't wait.

[OverTheRainbow88]

My Son is very sensitive too, sometimes he says shout shouting to me when I really am not shouting, but to him it is shouting.

[OverTheRainbow88]

Sorry days stop shouting

[loutypips]

Dd had a very shouty teacher. She wasn't really shouting (as in telling off), just had a very loud voice!

[Witchend]

It's not necessarily the whole truth:

My dd's story aged 4yo:

Mrs C hit me and shouted at me and told me off and all I was doing was coming back from the toilet

The real story:
Dd was running back from the toilet (not allowed) and ran into Mrs C (who was bending down with her back to dd and hadn't seen her) who jumped up and the back of her hand caught the top of her head. Mrs C said sternly, but not shouting "Now, you know you shouldn't run in the corridor"

DD's story was true from her side, but wasn't the whole picture. I have a parent (who would be honest with me) who witnessed it, so it's not a case of just believing the teacher.

[RedskyAtnight]

Indeed - I remember my DS telling me age 4 that Noah had pushed him down the steps near school. Further investigation revealed that Noah had lost his footing on the top step, gone flying and crashed into DS, knocking him over as well. DS was not making the story up but he hadn't got the nuances quite right.

[FairFriday]

Of course there are some teachers who are human - trying not to say - my form teacher through high school who was a complete birch to me from the first day because she had had a run in with my cheeky older sister and took every opportunity to tell me off, try to belittle me, comment on everything I did/say/wore... thank goodness I saw it for what it was (and my classmates would pipe up ‘that’s not fair!’ Or ‘why are you only giving out a punishment to one person when we all out out bags on our desks?’

[FourPlasticRings]

Probably just a loud teacher. Sensitive kids often interpret a loud voice used to address the class as 'shouting' and mistakenly believe it to be directed at them personally.

Mention it to the teacher.

[MadamMaltesers]

Can I just say please take this up with the school. I had a evil teacher who absolutely hated me and constantly excluded me from activities in year 4. Unfortunately I had her again in year 6 and she totally finished me off. I can’t talk about my primary school years without tears.

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Ds had a teacher who sent him out of class for anything minor (including coughing when he was recovering but not infections with pneumonia)

She was known to the school as having a problem with children with a certain colour hair

Turned out he hadn’t been in class for a term and a half

Must have been the last complaint about her because she was gone a couple of hours after my complaint