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Is this a reasonable thing to ask? Reception and Y6 using the same toilets

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AshAndHoney · 02/10/2020 16:53

There is a child in Y6 who uses a wheelchair, so Reception and Y1 are in the same wing of the building. DD is petrified of the big girls and doesn’t like going to the toilet in case they’re there, so is holding it in all day.

Is it fair to bring it up with the teacher? She isn’t telling me about any bad behaviour, just that she doesn’t like it when the big girls are in the toilets.

I also understand that children are in bubbles etc and possibly can’t move around the building as they would normally. I don’t want to be that parent.

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LolaSmiles · 02/10/2020 16:57

I'd talk to the teacher to ask her to give your DC a bit of encouragement given there's no issues other than the existence of bigger students.

FWIW no parent who expresss a concern in a reasonable way would be 'that parent'. 'those parents' are the ones demanding their own way, being unreasonable, going in all guns blazing without the facts etc. You're far from that.

BendingSpoons · 02/10/2020 18:15

I agree. Approach it as 'I'm worried about DD not going to the toilet. I'm wondering how we can help her to be less scared'. The teacher can give suggestions that of how to approach it that work for the school.

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AshAndHoney · 02/10/2020 18:23

Great, I will. I said to her to go at the same time as another girl from her class too.

Thank you!

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HandfulofDust · 02/10/2020 19:01

Obviously you can't ask that y6s don't use the same toilets but if poor DD is holding it all day definitely flag it with the teacher so she can help DD feel confident going. Perhaps she could find a time to check no one else is in there for DD so she can go at least once a day.

BlackberrySky · 02/10/2020 19:21

The issue is that your DD is intimidated by the bigger children. It's probably harder with current restrictions because normally the younger ones would come into contact with the bigger ones more often, or even get to know them as they do reading with the little ones. Is it possible for your DD to meet a few of them or is it strictly class bubbles only in your school?

VillageGreenTree · 04/10/2020 17:45

You can certainly mention it to the teacher who can reassure your child.

What are you doing at home to help your daughter with this OP?

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