SEN dd came on amazingly in LD but school not supporting us, can anyone help with next steps or letter?

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We don't know what SEN she has, probably dyslexia? We have been working on it and her since OCT when I could no longer wait for her to "click " as the teachers kept saying. In the end last year I started to look for outside help and was given amazing advice by various tutors. We managed to boost her weekly spelling score etc, and things started to click. We have had hearing tested and eyes, and we are - because I spoke to the SALT now on the waiting list for the Ed Pysch when they next come to the school, I was told DD was in the bottom co hort of the class.
Her reading was still very slow and plodding so I again did lots of research and took her right back to the basics then tried flash cards. This gave her a boost .
In march she was a stage 6, just starting. Her reading was better but still stop start, lots of sounding out . Then I signed up to reading chest which sends out books to read from her reading scheme. We plodded through endless stage 6, then things really started to click for her and we moved her to stage 7, by this point she was sometimes reading 2 books a day and becoming so much more confident and I was also able to teach her so much more .
By the time she went back to school she is a comfortable stage 8 cusping 9.

She is very sensitive and was very aware that other DC were on on higher book bands than her and this was not helping with her motivation as she felt she wasn't getting anywhere

Her tutor that I pay for, who we didn't see over lock down, said she has blossomed over lock down, her reading has come on so much. I wrote to the school trying to tell them where we are - all the hard work she has done.

Since being back they have heard her read 3 times, a few pages of stage 7 books. Why they started with stage 7 I don't know but now they wont move her up - even when I showed her the certificate that said she has read 80 books.

I feel very deflated - I have followed DD reading very closely through lock down - always asking her about the story - character development - inference - prediction etc etc etc. I have an older dd who is - was an incredible reader by year 2 she was a free reader - I am not a teacher but without wanting to sound arrogant on this subject I do have a good grasp on it.

The school books are 2 a week whereas I can get 6 a week so I suggested we continue with stage 8 and the school give us stage 9 so we don't cross over.

I got a note back to say she struggled on some words and what the story was about and that they would keep her at stage 7.

This is about so much more than the level its also about her hard work her self esteem etc.
Also the school have not replied when I asked why she was sat at the back, the other two dc with SEN are at the front they have also not responded to my request written and by phone to talk about her medical issue.

I feel so crushed - and despairing what can I do? Over lock down our school didn't even give us weekly sheets to work on - we were told some history topics and told to go to twinkl.

How old is your DD? When DS2 was in year 1 he was left on the same book band for months. The teacher kept saying she needed to move him up, but she did not do it.

We just kept reading every day, and I moved him up when it seemed like the best thing to do using library books and whatever we had at home. I made sure that I was writing the name of the book in his reading diary so that school knew what he was reading at home. He is now in year 3, and it does not seem to have done him any harm.

I would try not to worry too much about it. Book bands are fairly arbitrary after the first few anyway. The important thing is that your DD learns to read, which it sounds like she is doing. You can make sure she knows which book band she is reading with you to help her confidence.

Least favourite thank you for ploughing through that long op.
My problem with dd is, she will only read so much a day. So if we read the schools level 7, we are taking a huge step back and I won't be able to get her to read the level that suits her.

She's very sensitive and tricky and it's an emotional move too.. I don't feel the teacher or ta has actually digested what I said, and has just barely read what I have tried to get across and thought, pushy parent, I will determine the reading level.

My boy refused to read the school books. He would just cry and ask why the teacher thought he was stupid. We did not read any school reading books for months and months. I used the library to access the level I thought he needed, and made sure school knew what he was reading.

I never discussed it with school, and they never said anything to me about it. I assume that they were just happy that he was reading every day. I remember getting really worried and upset about it all.

It sounds like you are doing a great job supporting your DD.

Just read what she is capable of. They clearly don't care.

I find that an appalling attitude. My DD is the opposite and we have to drag him to read with horrendous tantrums and refusals, but if he finds a book he is even remotely interest in, we send him into school with that instead.

It is private but surely a school should want to work with you on this?

I never knew what level he was on as the books just had colours and I had absolutely no idea what his classmates were reading, how would you know?

DD even

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