How do I tell DS he will start a new school?

[JemIi]

Accepted an offer to transfer DS in year. Any tips for a good way to message this? He doesn’t deal with change well.

Advice appreciated! Thanks

Doesn't he have any inkling at all that hes about to move? How old is he?

If he's generally adverse to change I would be foing everything possible to get him involved in the move, helping to buy nee uniform, reading books about moving schools, maybe finding a friend who will be in hos class to meet and play with plus visiting the school if possible so its not all a great big unknown.

He is 5 and started y1....he doesn’t have any idea yet! Worried about telling him and want to do it in the right way.

What's the reason for the move? It's mostly best to be honest when making a big change so I'd go with explaining to him that hes moving and then telling him the reason why and then asking if he had any questions.

Time may not allow but I would suggest you drop feed as much as possible. Start the conversation in general terms without talking about him at all - sometimes children move schools because xyz, positive but laid back to introduce the concept. Then leave him to sleep on it. Just happen to find a book about it, and read it without personalising it. Give him another pause to assimilate. Only then introduce the idea that you have found him a new school.

At 5 his sense of time is still not like ours so you can go from one stage to the next quite quickly, but I would drip feed it like this, with breaks in between, all the same.

*drip feed, not drop feed.

Dd moved schools at that age. I just told her she was going to a lovely new school. Told her lots of positive things about it ( gardens outside, play area etc). We visited it with her and she was quite happy about it.

I moved my daughter at the start of Year 2. I did drip feed the idea over a period of time, but ultimately told her that we had found a brilliant school that would suit her really well and went on to tell her all the great things about it. We took her to visit and it was all fine.

I wouldn’t worry. Children adapt very quickly and are often less concerned than we think they’ll be. As others have said, I’d just tell him and big up the school.

Moved DD1 at the start of year 1. Told her we'd try to make sure she could still see her friends (she didn't have many - one reason for the school change), that it was a lovely school and (and this part was the bit she was really interested in) it was a purple uniform instead of green.

She flew at the new school.