How to talk to other mums

[redandwhite1]

My son has always been picked up by a wrap around after school club apart from one day a week when I could get away in between working but was very much a grab and run

Now he's back and In year 2 and I'm working at home every day I can pick him up but all the mums know each other and I feel left out :( I started to get to know 2 mums a while ago but now they blank me (no idea why!)

Any advise?!

Don't bother trying to get in the good books of people who bizarrely start blanking you. There are clones of them on every school run and they're not worth your effort.

Look for people who seem nice and genuine. Ask them a bit about themselves, smile, comment on the weather, say something positive about the school/class/teacher, etc. If they're friendly and also want to chat then that's great. Some people want to 'drop and run', feel they 'have enough friends' already etc. so don't take it personally if others aren't chatty, just leave them to it and move on.

Some of them are nasty bits of work as well. Just ignore them. A mum that I've known since my son's nursery days has totally cut me dead since May - she doesn't like my FB posts anymore but likes all if our mutual friends and made excuses about not having time for a playdate even though we ran into her in the park a few times. I've decided its not worth the bother. I just talk.to the friendly ones and say hi politely at others. I only drop off and collect on a Friday x

Can anybody help I've got a 8 year old boy who his autistic and sensory and very over weight struggling finding school trouser to fit properly and not deep enough from bum to waist so through the day they end up coming down below his bum his bum

Hi Jackkai I used to have this problem when my ds was younger and I found the website “sturdy kids” which should help you.

Hi Redandwhite1, looking around MN there are a lot of threads on here about the school gate, mums looking for friends, mums not looking from friends etc. There also seems to be a lot of anxiety about it.

So I work from the premise that some mums at the school gate are also looking to be friendly, some mums are not, and everybody is feeling somewhat anxious.

I try to smile at everybody, especially anybody who appears on the periphery and just see where it goes.

Thank you for reply I have looked at that site wasn't sure if they were any good I've ordered from that many sites with all of the trousers doing the same builders bum

@Onestepup @Cutesbabasmummy @Emeeno1 thanks, that's made me feel much better

I'm quite shy so not helping but will aim next week for some smiles and passing polite talk!!