Hi I wondered if anyone could give me some advice. My daughter started in her reception class about 4 weeks ago. Apart from the first day she has been continually unsettled. On the second day she found it difficult to undo her summer dress buttons (the size of polo shirt buttons) and was told she would have to get used to doing them herself. On the second day, because they only have a limited time in the hall, she was not quick enough and she was told to stop mucking about and hurry up. My daughter was distraught for the first week and now does not like p.e because she does not feel confident about doing her buttons and getting undressed quickly. I spoke to the teacher about it and the classroom assistant after the first set of comments were made. They said they would help her but then didn't. By the Friday she just burst into tears. I ended up seeing the head who then sorted it out. Today my daughter has come home upset. They were practicing their names in the class and she could not write the letter e, she said that she started crying and her teacher said oh don't start that. You are going to have to start gettting used to school. She was then told to go and sit on the mat. She was really upset. She has not been sleeping because she is becoming more and more distressed and sees school as somewhere where she can't do things. I have tried throughout to remain positive. Practicing everything at home, making up stories about characters starting school and settling and when she goes in she is fine, but this all seems to be undone by the end of the day, when something negative has been said to her. I am concerned that because she was upset at the fact she can't do something she was in a way told off for crying rather than just trying to encourage her to try again. When she got home we practiced her name and she wrote e within 10 minutes. We have just moved back from living abroad and my daughter left her old preschool there, then started one here for 6 months and then started school. She has had some big changes and I had a meeting with the teacher before she started to let her know my daughters circumstances as you are advised to do. Also I explained that if she does not feel secure in the first few days or something happens this will mean that anything else that happens on top of that, upsets her and she would find it difficult settling in. Both her preschools concurred with this and her preschool prior to joining school wrote that in her report. However, the approach the teacher has taken is not very encouraging and I can see she is beginning to withdraw and hates school. She has also started to wetting the bed. Of couse, I was not there but the wording she used was the words of a 4 and a half year old. And I am now getting concerned about how stressed she is getting at nights. However, will the teacher listen, when she doesn't seemed to have thus far. I am not criticising the work teachers do, I know they work hard and they have particularly large classes. Nor do I want to tell her teacher how to do her job. However, my thoughts were that in the first few weeks the teacher would be putting the emphasis on settling the children in but my child seems to be becoming increasingly unsettled day by day. The negative comments worry me. Any advice greatly appreciated.