Fuming!!! "You can't because mummy didn't bring back the form"

[Flamesparrow]

Mummy DID give back the form - the day after we were given it.

DD has sobbed the whole way home because she wasn't allowed to see the school dentist.

I'm very pissed off because so far NO dentist has seen inside her mouth because she clamps tight and refuses to open - I was relying on "everyone" doing it to get her to co-operate. She was excited

We got the form on the Friday, I sent it in in her book bag on the Monday, it came out again on the Monday so I sent her back into school (turned round went back in kind of thing) and she gave it to her teacher/TA (dunno which).

I am generally useless at remembering things, but have been adamant it will not affect DD's school stuff - and it hasn't. Now it just looks like it is just me being the same crapness that I have always been when I know I wasn't

Oh Flamey how blody annoying!! I have this issue with school too. At times I DO forget & my DD's are useless at remembering but by & large we get by. The school could have at least caught you at pck-up time surely? i know they are busy but really!!

YANBU to go & have a quiet word.

These PC consent forms we/they have to do rally "do my head" in to use an awful but apt phrase!!!

scuse the typos-s'pose to be paper -shuffling really!!

I get cross about this type of thing too! Last year I was told I hadn't paid for a trip and that we'd lost 2 library books - one of which was handed to a TA. Grrr.

Flame - my mum used to give my brother and me a small (cheap!) toy if we'd been good at the dentist. Maybe something you could try?

Oh Flame, my heart goes out to you.

I am utterly amazed at the amount of administration that has been created by ds going to school. There seem to be at least 2 forms a week to sign and send back, and now he's in Beavers we get forms from them too.

IMO Dentist/nit nurse/medical type things should be "opt out" forms anyway, so that in the absence of a form the child gets examined. That sorts out those kids who slip thu the net cos their parents can't be bothered (Not including YOU in that of course, but it would have avoided your problem.)

Oh not fair at all!

I got asked if I'd returned one of the original forms today, about Ds being filmed and photos in the paper etc.

I DID return it, I'm a bit like you Flamey, determined I would at least be organised for school if nothing else - but they insist they haven't had it.

Luckily I have changed my mind and decided I don't want him in the paper anyway, so that's good, but I'm so sorry for you after all the hoping she would be seen by the dentist. at 'excited' though! That's very good, keep it up

I've tried all forms of bribery with the main dentist, she just will not open her mouth (covers it with her hands, and we don't have enough arms, or the heart to traumatise her by pinning her arms down and forcing her mouth open!!)

I think it shows that fear of the dentist is completely irrational though - I am scared, but only of my own appointments, which she has never come to!

I'll talk to them tomorrow, still that the one time I didn't forget something, she still missed out

Hurrah - mum just called, dentist is back in tomorrow

Fs, if that doesn't work out tomorrow- Somerset NHS had a dentist at the emergency contact centre who was specialised in kids with Sn, or dental phobias- ds1 always used to see him- worth asking if your area has one similar? Used to be great- ds1 ws allowed to play with the chair controls etc.

Clumsymum I agree an opt-out form would be better & less hassle for the teachers. Shall we all suggest it?!

Trouble is they'll sill need our signatures I should think, not their fault but the bloody PC world we live in.

I got so fed up with the forms from Brownies that I wrote a standard letter giving "X & Y my full permissions to do any activity on or off the premises whilst my child is under their supervision"

STILL didn't chuffing work!!

God yes ami I NEVER have the right bloody change I need !! I suggested it to the PTA but it was felt that some families couldn't afford a lump sum & to have too many different payments would be hard work for the school sec.

Bolleaux! The teacher/sec keeps a book with columns (bit like the old milkmans diary thing!)& if you bung £20 in at the beginning of term great & if you can't you pay each time.A rolling decreasing total-not rocket science really is it? I'd rather the teachers were left to get on with their job instead of endlessly collecting bits of money & sending out notices half of which never make it home!!

At dd's school all parents sign a "catch all" permission slip at the beginning of the school year. It is kept on file, along with emergency contact and health information. So it can be done.

I never put authorisation letters in book bags, I take them straight to the school office.

me too, otherwise they'd languish in the botrtom of book bag forever

Nightmare! And so for your DD. The only way I manage is to collect everything up when I get it, shove it an envelope and check to see what needs doing urgently every morning. PITA but essential. And until your DD is in Yr4 at the earliest, take everything into the office, don't rely on bookbag mail because it frequently fails. I also have some sympathy with the teacher who probably ends up with a million little bits of paper to deal with as well as her class. That's what the school secretary is there for.

Our school would never go for a universal permission letter thing cos that would stop them being able to ask for 'voluntary donations' for just about everypigginthing. Have always wondered what would happen if I didn't cough up the necessaries all the time, seeing as it is 'voluntary'.

We get told not to take things directly to the office as they are more likely to go astray from the rest of the bunch.

She pretty much made me feel like I was making it up She'll see the dentist in November.

Will put everything into her hot sticky little hand from now on.