Ok, this will be long, sorry, I'll try to be concise.
Last school year ds was in the 1st class. Got a few (maybe 4 or 5) calls from1 of his teachers (he has 2) about him talking too much, being cheeky, minor stuff. I'm friendly with both teachers, thanked them, made it clear I want to know, followed up to check he's improving etc etc.
6 weeks ago he starts 2nd class. Not heard 1 word from school, tho as I've also started working there I'm there often & have personally spoken to his teachers several times, they've not said 1 word to me about him.
3 weeks ago there was a routine, start of the year parent's evening where they outline what the kids will do that year. During this the 2 teahers said there'd been loads of problems with this class & expected our support to help them improve. No names mentioned.
Last week we got a call from the head saying they were having a meeting to discuss the problems of the 2nd class. I assumed it was for all the prents. During this meeting again he said no names mentioned but really laid it on thick about no more trouble or exclusions etc etc. I only found out after only the parents of the 8 worst kids, all boys, and all bar 1 foreign, invited. Am absolutely horrified my son is considered one of the worst kids and up for exclusion.
Yesterday I met with his teacher and asked why, as still not been explained what exactly he's done, and if he's so bad, why I've not had 1 word from school. I separatley met the head (also funnily enough, her dh) this mornig, and hand on heart, I still can't see how they can justify such a strong reaction. It's low level stuff, I know annoying, but not bloody exclusion level, eg talking in class, being silly and not stopping. Not been cheeky, not been violent or agressive.
Head tells me this will hang over his head for the next 2 years. I am really pissed off. The other kids (7) maybe 2 are in the same position as him, and the others really are agressive fighters, who have also beaten my son up a couple of times. I even encouraged him to be frinedly with them so that they wouldn't hit him! Now I feel he is 'guilty by association'.
There was an incident a couple of weeks ago where the teacher lost control and ended up man handling 4 of the boys. The head then had to intervene and thus called the meeting and asked her for a list of the kids with repeated discipline problems, and she gave my son's name, even tho he was not involved in the incident and even tho, whatever his problems are, they were never so bad she felt she had to contact me.
I have met both the teacher and the head and remain really pissed off the is under the 'sword of Damaclese' for such small things, and don't know what I should do, if anything. Meeting with head had to get cut short, so he has asked me if I wish to make a further appointment.
Sorry it's long. I'm really stressed. And now ds2 has started the school and he's much more of a handful!!
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