How do i not be a pain in my ds reception class?

[shinyhappytonks]

Not that i have been told i am one - i just feel that i might be on the edge and wanna step back

My ds has only just started and is doing mornings up 'till 1pm. The problem is that i am so eager to help him/the school that i have started to wonder if i am coming across too much like an eager puppy - i like to have a few words with his teacher/TA when i drop him off, offered to help with class reading, etc. But, i have noticed that very few of the other parents do this (fair enough, probably very busy), and i always kick myself when i come out for maybe outstaying my welcome.

Do teachers mind this, or would they rather i drop my ds off and bugger off quickly to let them get on. I am out of the class before school is supposed to start. Any thoughts would be welcome.

em

Oh you are an amateur at being a pain tonks, I promise
Real pains pursue other parents to ask "anxiously" how many reading books their child is being sent home with...in order to be able to ram home the message that their child is already reading and much more advanced than yours. NB, this is two weeks afte the start of the school year when they know from beady observation that your child's main achievements to date have been shoving plasticine up both nostrils simultaneously.
They corner to you ask "with some concern" if you think the pace of learning is enough, because little Brainiac is complaining of boredom.
They will also be doorstepping the teacher daily with the above concerns, so you offering to help with reading (ie helping everyone not just your own mini-Einstein), and having a conversation that does not contain a veiled critique of their teaching ability, is going to be music to their ears.
If ds is your first, any wise and experienced Reception teacher will know what a heightened time it is for parents and child alike, and will give you the gentlest of direction to scram if they think it's getting too much.

shiny hi. you're unlikely to be a real pain, if you recognise that you are 'on the edge'. truly annoying parents are totally unaware of the situation!

i would probably try to ration yourselve to one 'quiet word' with the teacher per week- lol!

as a teacher myself, it can be irritating to have the SAME parents wanting to talk to you everyday.

maybe someday you'll have a really pressing issue that needs her attention. if you 'wear her down' at this early stage, she may not have the energy to react to future concerns!

shinyhappytonks - at the start of the year with the first child in reception, I don't think the teacher is going to classify you as one of 'those' parents.

I have a similar situation, but am shamefully a Y2 parent - I had a word with ds1's teacher about something a couple of weeks ago, and now I do need to speak to her about something else - and feel very embarrassed that she will think am fussy and neurotic!

actually, shiny, tortoise is right.

you can prob get away with indulging yourself for a good few eeks yet

btw, i do teach yr5, so it's a bit different. (i have been known to HIDE from Mrs Banks, though).

Thanks for all your messages, i don't feel quite so loony now

I will try and ration my conversations per week.

I have already met 'one' of those parents who told me that her ds was 'bored' 2 wks in - and the children are only doing half days ! Apparently the non-word books are not taxing enough for her reading child and should she talk to the teacher to get him assessed properly

em

hi fwiw this wd be me too but i have not spoken to the staff at all until today briefly when we had our meet the teacher session., as i am a teacher myself and have dreaded being pushy overfreindly mum)we were also asked at the preliminary meeting in may not to talk to staff before school as they are getting ready settling anxious ones etc. there is a message book to write in to explain about day to day business such as who is collecting them if a differnt person or issues such as child upset as rabbit died last night etc. today we were asked not to come in at all anymore which is totally fair enough, principally as they cant have adults milling about inside school because of security reasons (there are 48 new reception children)and also because some children are still abit wobbly and are then fine until another mum appears with a child and then this sets them off again. at ours they printed a list of parent helper jobs as ppl need to be checke3d on the child protection list so you need as it were 'to apply'