DS says teachers are rude and shouts a lot

[sherbert]

DS has just started year 1. He hates it and has been crying most days. He says the teachers are rude and they shout. His teacher is quite young, and perhaps a bit in experienced I dont know. There will be a parents evening in October, should I wait til then to talk about the problems he is having or should I approach the teacher sooner. How should I approach her. I cant say that my 'DS says your rude' can I , not sure what to do here.

what does the teacher say or do that your ds thinks is rude?

It is hard to say. He hasnt said anything specific. i think it may be because it she shouts.

Two of my kids had a jolly hockey sticks type shouter. Loud, rather than shouting at them. DD1 did not like her!

Year 1 can be hard for children to adjust to. They have been used to the freedom and relaxed atmosphere of a Reception class, and Year 1 is very, very different. It may be this that's upsetting your son, rather than anything his teacher is doing.

Year 1 is much more disciplined than Reception, too, and teachers have to raise their voices to make themselves heard over a class of young children, so the fact she "shouts" may not be as bad as you're thinking.

Do raise your concerns now, though, rather than waiting for another month.

agree with wig wam

Have a talk to the other parents too, their dc may be the same...or not!

What reputation does the teacher have in the school? (We all had reputations at my last school I was 'Strict, but cool' which I loved )

She might be PROJECTING and not shouting . Given that primary schools are such open places and she's new, I doubt she is shouting at the kids or, if she is, then colleagues/the head would soon have a word, but I would go with my first guess at this stage.

When my dd told me this, I asked her to be that teacher and act out what she does. I was quite shocked by what I saw. It wasn't just a case of raising your voice.

Offer to go in and listen to readers then you can check it out yourself.

yes i will probably offer to go into the class and listen to the readers, i did that last term and it was enlightening. Good idea about asking DS to pretend to be the teacher. I will try that.

When I helped in schools I found many of the teachers did speak in a rude way to the children. It seems to be acceptable to some extent (ie, they made no attempt to hide what they were doing and as far I know, nothing was ever done about it).

The very good teachers I have seen working do not speak to children in a disrespectful, sarcastic, abrupt or bullying way, but there are not only very good teachers in schools unfortunately.

Bear in mind the useful adage - if the teachers promise not to believe everything the children tell them happens at home, parents should promise not to believe everything they say happens at school..........

well this morning when i dropped him off he looked in the class room window and said 'she is there' I said who? he said 'that screaming teacher' . I am going to try and canvas some opinion this afternoon. I will have a word with a teacher friend this evening and try and speak to her tomorrow. I think i will say some thing like 'how do you think Ds is settling in.' and go from there. DS is a sensitive child, and i know the transition to year 1 is difficult, but for his sake i think I need to be seen to be taking his concerns seriously.