DD just started reception, settled in very well but having lots of tears through night???

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wont let anyone put her to bed except me otherwise crys her heart out, and last night woke up every hour crying she was afraid of dark, wanted me/dp in bed with her..sobbed all night..just dont want same tonight as shes shatterd and i know this week muct have been massive upheavel for her but need tsome tips please

Not really got any tips just wanted to add that ds is having a hard time with reception too. Went in fine first few days but has cried on and off day all wed, thur and today. I had to collect him early (at 1.30) today as he was so upset.
He says its 'just too long' and 'I miss you'

We are going to do a few half days next week I think.

Re your dd, I'd give her a nightlight if she hasn't got one and just lots of reasurrance. If she needs you , and just you, to put her to bed then I'd go with it. It wont be forever.
Its so hard for them. Such a change and very tiring.

I had this with dd1 last year. It's mostly down to overtiredness with a bit of all the newness going through their minds.

You can negotiate half days with the school, or maybe an early finish on Fridays. Otherwise we used lavender oil on a tissue in her pillow case to relax her, and played a soft story CD in he rroom, but tbh we really just had to ride it out until after half term when things began to settle.

well dd has been finishing at 2pm all wek, but 3pm as normal next week, saying that i dont think she really realises its been 2 1/2 hours later as she asks what we're having for lucnh etc(at dinner time), she is one of youngest and wasnt due to go up until january.

first day she was brill, second third fourth and fifth she asked me not to 'leave ' her, but was fine when i said oh im not leaving you its just like nurser blah blah, quick change of subjecy..i know she likes teachers(theyre lovely) and she enjoys her day, but i also appreciate it a big change for one so little and most children in her class have been sobbing on the morning where as dd has been fine..

she's gone straight to sleep tonight(will be shatterd after no sleep last night) so ma hoping she sleeps through and it breaks the apattern..i said to dp about a night light, but shes NEVER hadprob with dark before?, wonder if it just a way to get us in there, or her into our room??..dont want to make and issue of the dark thing if its just a deterant??

yeah she wasnt tired last week as nly did two days, this week has been almost full days for all week and by wed you could tell it was taking its toll on her and my mindee(in class together)..poor things

I once spoke to a lady (about night lights) ,who'd written sleep books (she's one of the hv at our surgery actually)and she said you should never refuse a child if they ask for a night light. Even if they've always slept in the dark. They can just develop fears of the dark at any time.

right, well maybe ill let her choose on of those round ones you tap on and off with fave cartoon on or somthing then?, shes had no end of them and ive binned thatm as shes neevr botherd!, maybe the fear of dark is the anxiety coming out in that form?

Yes could be. Its worth a try. If not it might take her mind of whats upsetting her.
Poor dd .

Probably is just a way to get you in there or into your room. She has already said she misses you. She might need you near for reassurance. I think you've got to humour her for a while until she feels settled again. A lot to cope with for her.

my dd struggles with the dark, she's had a nightlight for a while. I just got one from B&Q and it's fine. Some nights at the moment she asks for her lamp or her main light on - I let her have it atm as she does sleep, and has a good imagination - complains about shadows! (Her lights are quite dim and energy saving bulbs). She's just started reception as well, so atm I tend to go with it!

Our dds have always had nightlights. Since startingschool dd1 has asked for the landing light to be on as well.

thanks for all your tips and reassurance..dd slept right through till 6.30 this morn, with no waking or at least maybe some waking but no shouting or crying and went straight off to sleep at 7.45 with no hassle or tears..when i went to check on her before i went to bed, i noticed her new helium balloon that id sat up high in corner of her room on top of drawers?..looked pretty eerie to me in the dark, so i moved that incase it was adding to her stress???..i think she was so tired from night before she just 'dropped' last night, so hope she settles ok tonight?..also took her to new dnace class today(i made sure i could stay with her as it would have been to much for her otherwise this week!), she cried as we went in as was huge hall in church(pretty spooky!), then lots of other little girls came in, i lead her to very friendly looking teacher and as soon as they started she loved it..kept giving eachother the thumbs up for reassurance and great big hug afterwards..she was really happy..bless her

same here , twice over
dd twin crys with exhaustion in the car and then is grizzly all evening. plus grinding teeth in the night
ds son waking up in the night, frightened of noises or sthing and has had to come in our bed
very unusual for both
they love school but full time and schooll lunch etc is just very tiring, as they are the youngest full timers
i think their heads are just full of stuff and its info experience overload!

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oh god twins, you must be strung out!
yes dd seems hyper sensitive to a lot of things has been wild today tho!!! and also she is one of youngest in class too!.

no cod i havent seen that thread?