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My funny, bright, infuriating boy has had a good year :-)

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dejags · 12/09/2007 15:10

Some of you may remember me posting earlier on in the year about DS1.

We were having a really tough time with him at school. He wasn't achieving (he's only in Y1), he wasn't concentrating or doing pretty much anything the teacher wanted him to do.

There were all sorts of suggestions and a botched Ed Psych assessment which left me distraught and both of us in tears.

I should trust my instincts more. DS1 has settled down beautifully. At his recent parent/teacher interview his teacher had nothing but praise for him. His work is beautiful, he is way above average for reading and writing and getting there on maths. His social skills are good and he is turning out to be an all-rounder .

I knew in my heart that DS1 would be ok, but I let a bunch of strangers tell me things about him and me that I foolishly believed.

The moral of the story is - if you believe in your child and have a good instinct that they'll be ok, you'll probably be right.

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dejags · 12/09/2007 15:18

ah clearly it's only of interest to me.

doesn't touch on MMc.

most typical of Mumsnet these days.

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floaty · 12/09/2007 15:20

Wonderful,

bozza · 12/09/2007 15:20

Just found this dejags. I do remember your other thread and am really pleased that DS1 has found his niche and is really getting into his learning now.

southeastastra · 12/09/2007 15:22

oh good for him! i feel a bit like that about my ds(6) at the moment. he's just gone into year two and already the school have him in an IEP and want me to send him to an occupational therapist. to me he's just fine.

nice to hear trusting your instincts has worked, wish i could trust mine more.

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dejags · 12/09/2007 15:27

Thanks all .

I was really, really upset and emotional about the whole situation earlier on this year. To have this level of turnaround is such great news.

There was talk of Aspergers Syndrome and/or ADD/ADHD, Occupational Therapy and just a general upset that he was one great big pain in the arse as far as the school was concerned.

The thing I am happiest about is that he finally seems settled. He was always a bit of an outsider and a bit different. He's just a normal little boy .

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francagoestohollywood · 12/09/2007 15:38

Glad to hear this dejags. Ds (he is 5) started yr 1 with lots of good intentions apparently... (though I'm despairing he'll ever learn to read...)

BeetrootBevan · 12/09/2007 15:40

Dejags - so glad . I remember it being pretty tough for you.

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dejags · 12/09/2007 15:42

Cheers Beety.

Don't worry Franca. DS has just leaped ahead in reading in the past 6 months. He is reading on the level of an 8 year old and he is 6y3m.

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francagoestohollywood · 12/09/2007 15:45

Mine has a reading age of -8, I think...
It's lovely when you realized that they have settled, isn't it?

coppertop · 12/09/2007 17:51

Well done to Dejags Jnr.

KommandantColditz · 12/09/2007 17:55

seriously WELL DONE to your ds, I am glad to hear he has settled down.

DirtyGertiefromnumber30 · 12/09/2007 17:57

Great news Dejags. Youre right - these days we are all too ready to listen to the advice of 'experts' when actually the only real expert is US!

bobsmum · 12/09/2007 18:01

Dejags - this is great news and really encouraging.

wE're going through similar with ds. He's been at school for 3 weeks.

Nursery referred him to an EdPsych and there was also hints at aspergers/ADHD/ADD tec. We're still waiting to hear from the very elusive edpsych about OT.

Meanwhile, he's at school and loving it. He has learning support in the classroom, but the head has already picked up that he is exceptional in his maths and music.

I really, really pray this is me copying and pasting your OP this time next year

Well done dejags jnr

suedonim · 12/09/2007 18:24

Hoping this will be third time lucky in posting!!

How delightful re your ds1, Dejags, I recall how concerned you were about him. It's lovely to read about a happy ending - we don't all haunt those 'other threads'!

Heathcliffscathy · 12/09/2007 18:27

dejags that is superb news....you must be bursting with pride and relief, i know i would be....

AbschaumMutter · 12/09/2007 18:29

Saturn74 · 12/09/2007 18:31

Fab news, dejags.
It must be such a relief sending your DS to school nowadays, knowing that he will be fine.
I'm so glad it has worked out well.

SparklePrincess · 12/09/2007 20:08

Great news dejags

Pruners · 12/09/2007 20:15

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Hallgerda · 12/09/2007 21:06

That's lovely, dejags .

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dejags · 13/09/2007 11:55

Bobsmum, try not to stress too much. I truly believe at this very young age, it's very difficult to pin a definitive diagnosis on a child in the absence of specific symptoms.

In the case of DS1 he just takes a little longer than other children to settle in. He is very bright and has a very high verbal and non-verbal IQ. I think the gap between his emotional maturity and his overall intelligence and speaking ability makes it difficult for him sometimes.

Hang in there. I'll be waiting for that follow up post from you next year .

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flamingtoaster · 13/09/2007 13:17

dejags - great to hear that DS1 is so happy now and doing so well. Verbal/non-verbal ability being well above chronological age does make it difficult for little ones so its great that things are turned round already. Ed Psych assessements with young children are often fraught with difficulties! A friend's child was initially assessed as being significantly below "normal" - when later it transpired she was within the top 1%! Hopefully the school will now ensure DS1's happy experience continues.

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