DS7 Year 2 help

[Twinkie84]

Hi;

I've just been to my DS's parents evening. It was a very hard one to listen to. This is my 2nd DS; other DS is in year 6 and for context older DS is progressing well at the same school.
Basically we were told that they can't tell me much about his progress to date this year as he 'day dreams' too much and doesn't get down to his work until he is nagged enough to write something (normally a word or too)! There is a TA in the class which is there to support him (and other children too) but they are trying to get him to do more independent work and not too rely on an adult all the time. Now he is attentive at carpet time and seems to process what he needs to do but when he goes away; nothing appears in the book. He can do lovely work when he sets his mind to it and I saw evidence of this so I know he is capable.
He does have interventions in reading and phonics and both of these are progressing but any written work is a real struggle.
I did mention whether they thought he was dyslexic or maybe on spectrum but she said she couldn't see any traits to say that he is (she has been teaching for a good many years).
She said she was out of ideas to try to help him to produce the work that she thinks he is capable of. Im sure there is more that can be done but I'm not sure what this is. I really want to help him but not sure really where to start...
Can anyone offer any advice please?

Can anyone offer any advice?

Thank you

You know your child - is it that he finds it hard and avoids it, is it that he finds the "getting started" bit hard and then will get on once over that initial hurdle, or is it just that he daydreams and doesn't want to do it? I've seen all three in my life and they all tend to appear the same but the reasons behind it is different.

For some kids it's the whole psychology of getting started that's the big thing and just getting over doing the date, title and first sentence and they'll fly (I'm like this - hence being on MN when I should be doing a university assignment). For some it's avoidance (one of mine is like this - has dyspraxia so writing is bloody hard and so will spend her time making sure everyone else is doing what they should be, that the pencils are all sharpened and that she's fully checked out what the caretaker's doing out in the playground through the classroom window in order to avoid having to do the task) and for some it is a combination of daydreaming and an inability to stop talking/busybodying (DD1... looking at YOU).

DD2 finds writing physically hard and her written responses are the textual equivalent of monosyllabic teenage grunts - she now types a lot of her work and the quantity and quality went through the roof - we took the pressure off her... but she has a dyspraxia diagnosis.

Could you afford an Ed psych assessment. If he seems bright but struggles to write his work down there might be an isolated issue causing difficulties.

My child at 6/7 and my child at 8/9 was totally different. Chatting, day dreaming, not concentrating in yr2. In yr3 on wards, changed so much. Basically, needed a bit of maturing.
If you think if there is the possibility the SEN is involved, I would not wait for school to suggest but seek help. Otherwise, keep working on things done like homework at home, but just wait for him to click with work. He is still so young.

Have you asked him?

Hi,

I am in exactly the same place with my ds in year 2. He is so capable but does as little as possible. To the extent that his teacher has told me one day that he had done absolutely nothing that day. I was mortified but we have agreed that anything he is expected to do and doesn't is sent home with him to be done that evening, before he does anything fun, and returned to school the next morning. Slowly he is getting the message that the less he does at school, the more he does at home and I am not as nice about it as the teacher! It sounds and feels harsh but I feel he needs to get the message that he needs to do what is expected of him, especially as he is capable of doing it and is choosing not to.
It is frustrating as hell but having gone through similar with my older child (now in year 4 and a proper grafter) trust me...they do grow out of it once they realise there's no getting out of it x

What have they already tried ?