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How do I help him

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anon2000000000 · 10/01/2020 16:10

My son has adhd and is being assessed for autism.

He comes home from school happy most days.

I worry about the social side of things. He struggles with making friends. The school have been great and have implemented group work but the kid he was friends with said the other day that he didn't think they're friends anymore. He has a few others he plays with but doesn't know their names. There is a couple of kids in his class that he doesn't get on with.

He said he's by himself at playtime and that he plays at lunch.

My heart is breaking for him. I just want him to have a group of friends he can see during holidays and things, he doesn't see anyone outside of school but does attend some after school clubs. We are relatively new to the area.

I don't know what else to do for him, he says he's not lonely, the school says he's not playing by himself but I just don't know what else to do. You never hear of other kids falling in and out the way he is with people. I think the other kids don't know how to take him so avoid or ignore him apart from the 3 or 4 friends he does have. 4 months he's been there and there's no party invites or play dates or anything.

Am I worrying over nothing? I don't get a chance to speak to the mums because I don't know who any of them are. The playground is busy and is the whole school in one playground so I don't know who is who's parents.

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LIZS · 10/01/2020 16:17

How old is he? If he is just starting school you cannot expect him to find close friends by himself. Have you asked for meet ups and playdates? Do the staff suggest he is left on his own?

anon2000000000 · 10/01/2020 16:39

He's 8.

I don't know who anyone is to ask them to do anything. Parents from every school year are all together in the playground when the kids line up.

The school has said he's not by himself, my son said he is by himself and he doesn't understand why they think he's playing with others when he's not.

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LIZS · 10/01/2020 17:29

By 8 I think it is normal for parties to be selective. Are there any clubs or activities he could join? Tell the teacher despite appearances he is on his own much of the time, do they have a friendship bench. Are there any school socials to enable you to meet other parents?

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