My nearly 10 year old daughter had some difficulties at school this autumn due to being subject to mean girl behaviour by her two of her 'friends'. She reacted very strongly to it and has found it difficult to trust people since then. As she very well knows how it feels to be left out and excluded, she made her best effort to include a lonely girl in her class, who sometimes struggles dealing with her emotions and can be quiet explosive in her manner. Not aggressive, just overly dramatic.
One of her other friends does not get along with this explosive girl and the usual scene ended up being this friend saying something that would then set off the explosive girl, leading to much drama.
Anyway, long story short - the friend then informed my daughter that she was no longer allowed to speak to her because of her association with the explosive girl, even though she still wanted to be friends. Her mum is a teacher at the school and when the explosive girl was off sick, the friend asked her mum if she could play with my daughter... and the answer was no.
I am really perplexed how this is considered fair behaviour from this teacher mum, first of all to dictate who her daughter is allowed to play with and secondly, cutting someone out by pure association? I should add that the message conveyed through her daughter was that it is 'impossible to fix people like her' in reference to the explosive girl, which is really sad as to me that sounds like writing off a 9-year-old as unworthy and incapable of changing with help and guidance. This event naturally really upset my daughter, as she was just finding her feet and confidence again after the bullying.
I cannot help but feel really perplexed and find this behaviour very unprofessional.
What would you do?