Should I stop doing extra work with my DS?

[Ahmawa]

So I have been doing extra maths work with my son and he really enjoys it, we do about 20-30mins each day and he has really motored along.

Now the teacher has informed me that he is being unruly in the class because he already knows the work they are teaching and wants to learn what I have been doing at home.

So should I just stop doing the extra maths work and let him learn at the pace of the class? My son isn't a maths whizz, he's just eager to learn so I started doing extra work with him at home.

Whats the best way to resolve this as I don't want him to have another strop at school.

Speak to him about his behaviour.

He probably won’t be the only child who finds the general class maths easy and his teacher will be able to provide those children with maths appropriate to their level.

The issue is his attitude. He won’t be so great at maths that he’s got a licence to behave badly.

Agree with above. The problem is not the extra work you are doing, the problem is his behaviour.
If for whatever reason a child knows what is being taught already, they are allowed to let the teacher know this, but it doesn't give them a licence to behave badly. Nor does it give them a right for special attention from the teacher.
If this is a fairly new thing, the teacher will need some time to adjust her assessment of your child's maths and hopefully will then differentiate for him accordingly.
But unfortunately in some instances differentiation is not done very well. You can hope, but you can't expect nor demand.

So you can either stop doing work with your child at home, or you can teach him how to behave when the teacher is covering something he knows already. E.g. listen carefully so you know exactly what the teacher is asking for (yes that may be boring but it will only be a few minutes at a time), do your work quickly and correctly, then go to teacher and ask for something else/more/more interesting/harder. Or, ensure you really do understand the work set, then make up your own, harder challenges (based on stuff you've been working on at home - if the teacher is doing number bonds to 10, your DS might work out multiplications/divisions/subtractions that equal 10, or make number bonds out of decimals and fractions, ...)

I wouldn't stop, if he enjoys it and is learning well. I would speak to him about behaviour. And I would speak to the teacher because she really should be keeping all children occupied. Some kids are naturally good at maths, that doesn't mean they should spend their school days bored. There should be extension tasks for those who finish quickly.

Just re-read and maybe the teacher wants to know what he's been doing at home so she knows what to give him that will challenge him?

The teacher needs to give with work with appropriate level of challenge.

He needs to change his behaviour.

Ultimately, shes a paid professional and he's a kid so the onus is on her to make a change.

In the primary I teach at, you can have children in year 3 doing 5 hours tutoring a week in prep for 11plus in the same class as kids working at reception levels. That's life, you just accommodate it.

No, don't stop. My dd was flying in maths and we'd always done loads of bits and pieces at home which she really enjoyed and had an aptitude for. Come the start of Y3 I got an ear-bashing from the teacher for doing vertical addition with her (which she grasped in an instant) because it went against how it was taught at school now. Apparently.

So I stopped doing any extra maths with her at home. Big mistake. Her maths went downhill from that moment onwards.

Actually i agree about column addition and dc1 finds it a lot easier as it's only 1 method.
Rather than you can jump or draw etc.
Whether shown already or not some kids will pick things up instantly and get all correct so the teacher needs to have a way of dealing with that.

The teacher should be differentiating work. They should also be able to keep your DS from having a strop. Keep working with your DS, as a secondary teacher I wouldn't complain if a child studied for their GCSEs and knew all the answers I would just expect them to get high grades.

The teacher, in lessons I have observed, teaches the topic. Your DS might find the early examples the teacher gives very easy. This is whre he needs patience. The teacher should then give work to DC to practice the topic. This is where differing levels of work come in. The ones who are very quick can be given harder work very quickly and an experienced teacher will widen out the topic for them too and challenge them.

So do not stop teaching him. Ask for him to have a broader curriculum and, yes, it means the teacher will have to do more work. However, no child should be bored or keep to a basic level when they can do more. The key thing is he should be challenged. Any decent teacher will do this. However your DS will have to be patient whilst others are taught the topic initially. Assuming your DS has been assessed in maths, the teacher should be aware of his ability and plan the lessons accordingly. You cannot have a one size fits all.

You should tell the teacher what you have covered at home and how so they can ensure appropriate challenge in class