How to reason with this boy

[Smith888]

Hi my son is almost 9 and srarted a new school. A boy keeps pulling his hair, punching his head and grabbing his throat. My son says the boy has a staff watching him at all times it and is telling the boy off so I assume it's being monitired (but will talk to teacher on Mon).

How does my son stop the boy altogether?He has tried shouting "stop" and ,"i don't like it". but says the boys doesn't stop/understand. What can he do to prevent this? It's clear the boy has SEN so I am wondering if a specific way of addressing this is needed...

Any advice welcome. Thanks.

It started on Monday

I'm not sure he can do anything apart from stay out of the way.
You can go and ask the teacher pleasantly what they are doing to keep your son (and other children) safe.

Assuming the child has some SEN, it sounds like he maybe needs a 1-1 / teacher to intervene earlier than at present. It could be they are still getting the measure of the boy and will succeed with behaviour management soon.

Yes he has 1 on 1. He has a lot of trouble bumping into kids etc but seems his mentor has not informed teacher of what exactly he's been doing so she will have a quiet word. I just want to understand how my son can prevent this like eg saying "nice hands" or whatever. I'm clueless tbh...

As you said it's new school , the boy in the school got new one to hang around..as all the classmates well aware and staying away already. I unknowingly put my son into connection with a similar boy and I know how it is now. May be your son should learn how to get along with him first as he need time to make bonds with others. All you can help is to teach him how to stay safe and be kind with one with SEN. It's a skill if he can cope with.

I would certainly talk to the school about the safeguarding issue, they have a duty of care to keep your child safe.

It can be very challenging dealing with children with SEN, but the welfare of ALL children is paramount.

Thanks for advice. I agree the boy needs time to get used to my son. My older son was SEN and lost many friends. On the flip side I feel for the boy. I wish he and my son could get along. Hopefully time will tell....