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4 yr old still not dry

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Lmagic · 28/09/2019 19:17

Calling all mums/dads out there, my DD is 4 years old 2 months and started school early Sept. My problem lies in that she still has wee accidents at school and some days several at home too which seems to have increased since starting school. Its driving me crazy and nothing I say to her works to try to get her dry. Her teacher is going to use a reward chart on Monday - weve had charts at home in the past but they don't work but school wants us to have one too so we work together. Any tips/advice?

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Hecateh · 28/09/2019 20:17

Reward charts at school will work better than for you. Back them up. No comment except when she uses the loo.

Totally matter of fact about accidents. Big fuss for successes. Otherwise ignore the issue.

Vague reminders perhaps at appropriate times (before and after meals, before going out, when you come in etc) but otherwise ignore, ignore, ignore. When she is wet - just give her some dry pants and leave her to sort it out. She may be uncomfortable but it's no big deal and it won't last long.
She can do it, ok some regression on starting school is normal but other than that she can't be bothered - and, I suspect, she gets more attention for accidents than for staying dry, even if negative.

Lmagic · 28/09/2019 22:14

Thank you for the advice, will give it our best go.

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Littlefish · 29/09/2019 16:45

Any chance that she could be constipated? A Full bowel can put pressure on the bladder, causing wee accidents.

lorisparkle · 29/09/2019 17:01

The website ERIC has lots of good information about issues with toileting, for both school and home.

Lmagic · 29/09/2019 20:00

She rarely gets constipated but that was a good thought Littlefish 😊 x

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