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Friends find my sons temper funny

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Smith888 · 08/06/2019 18:02

DS is in Yr3 and is easily offended/ loses his temper easily. At home he will go to his room to calm down and is usually fine after a few minutes. At school he cant do this and the other kids are now seeing this as a game and deliberately annoying him. They do silly stuff like call him names, make mean faces, all run away from him, all wrestle him together - anything to set him off. I have of course explained that ignoring them is the best way of dealing but because DS is quite impulsive he still finds this hard. Any tips? My son is moving schools and I don't want this to be an issue at his new school...

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Prestia · 08/06/2019 18:33

He’ll be well away from those children anyway. Have you spoken to the school? I’d want to know as a teacher.

My DH and DS both have quick tempers. It is something they have to work on and find strategies to deal with.

DS cannot have much screentime at all or there is a decline in his mood too.

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Smith888 · 08/06/2019 19:01

I haven't spoken to the staff recently. Its a small school and some parents have more power than others, with direct lines to staff. Unfortunately one of those is mum of the biggest trouble maker. Last term that boy was caught out, so he progressed to getting a reception kid to punch my son and now its moved to half the boys in his year group doing these things to irritate him. He's normally involved but I don't know if he instigates these kids. The HT has told me she doesn't need my input as she knows what is going on in her school, is dealing with it, and I can leave when I like, hence the move.
My concern is if my son doesn't do some quick growing up over the summer it may happen again at his next school.

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BarbarianMum · 08/06/2019 19:05

Well your son needs to learn to control his temper, which I'm sure he will with age. But what you are describing is a form of bullying. If it starts again at his new school for goodness sake speak to them.

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Smith888 · 08/06/2019 19:38

@BarbarianMum I have spoken to the staff about previous incidents. I have sent three letters detailing my concerns, I have had two meetings. HT says she does not need my input as she knows what is going on aka she couldn’t care less.
Some kids stick up for my son but are scared to report to teachers as the instigators just lie and then they and my son get into trouble.
Today it happened at a party and fortunately the parents sorted it out.
I will definitely let the new school know.

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Attache · 08/06/2019 21:23

Teach your son to take deep breaths, concentrating on breathing out, count to 10, and to walk away for a breather. Get him to practice when he is calm. Perhaps a tangle toy or stress ball in his coat pocket.

Have faith that it will just be different in a more inclusive school.

Singlenotsingle · 08/06/2019 21:32

That's bullying. Unfortunately your DS has shown his Achilles heel and the school kids are making the most of it. And the HT isn't doing her job if she says she doesn't need your input. She may know what's going on but she isn't interested in doing anything about it. So you're changing schools at her suggestion? Disgraceful. I'd be taking it to the governers, the local education authority and my MP!

KneelJustKneel · 08/06/2019 21:37

I know a school has cards where kids struggling can show and go out the room for a short period or sit in the quiet corner. Just some visual way of showing the teacher they're about to boil over before they do.

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Smith888 · 09/06/2019 08:41

I will be sure to mention I am leaving at the advice of HT in my exit interview with the governors!
Right now I'm focused on keeping my son calm and happy. Fortunately, despite having a temper, DS is a half glass full kid with a short memory. I'll have him out before it effects him. I've seen a few schools and should finalise next week.
Thankyou everyone

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Pigletin · 13/06/2019 11:03

Your poor son and shame on the school for supporting this issue by not doing anything about it. I would make sure this is known to other parents and prospective parents. I don't have much advice to offer but I would be looking at changing schools too (ask a lot of questions about their bulling policy and how they deal with such things). And yes, your son will learn how to control this in the future, but at this age it's hard for them to grasp that they need to remove themselves from the situation. Best of luck to him at the new school.

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