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Deferring primary school in Scotland

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rlcampbell · 14/04/2019 23:36

I don’t know what to do.. I am thinking about deferring my September born son’s school entry by a year. We would have to fund a space for him in a private nursery for a year. He is bright and everyone is telling me to send him to school but I feel he needs more time. He has concentration issues, is quite hyper etc.. Do you think he is going to hate me for making him older than his peers? Potentially be bullied or just feel out of place?

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FannyFifer · 14/04/2019 23:41

A September birthday, so he wld be 6 just after starting? Some kids wouldn't even be 5 yet which wld be a massive gap.
I deferred my DD but she was a Feb birthday.

MightyAtlantic · 14/04/2019 23:44

I've only ever known people to defer kids with Jan or Feb birthdays. But if you don't think he is ready, you know best.

irnbruforlife · 14/04/2019 23:45

I dont think your son will notice till hes older teen and he will be the first to drive/buy drink which he will prob see as a good thing. My ds is dec born and we kept him back a year. No issues at all. Only minor thing is he is tall for his age (97th percentile) so is heads taller than everyone in his class.

thefavourite · 14/04/2019 23:46

I wouldn't defer a September birthday! He'll be nearly 6 by the time he starts with all the 4.5 year olds! I would concentrate on finding the right school for him.

KaterinaPetrova · 15/04/2019 00:11

What do his nursery teachers say? To me, that's what counts.
I know it's obvious to say that a mother knows her child best but I honestly have no idea what my children are like in an educational setting. I don't see them in their schools/nurseries except on parents evenings and special parent activity days.

Both my DDs were the youngest in their years (Jan born) and they went to school at the expected time and are did wonderfully. My DS is the oldest of all his class, obviously didn't defer and is... meh. He does alright but he's not at the level his sisters were. I trusted the teachers to tell me what they thought.

For your DS OP I wouldn't defer. He'll be so, so much older than his classmates and at a young age, it's very noticeable. He'll most likely do just fine.

prettybird · 15/04/2019 00:12

My ds has a September birthday and although I knew I could have deferred him (and would have done so if I'd really felt that he wasn't ready) I chose not to.

Most deferrals I've come across (I deal with registration for a local sports club, so get to know Dates of Birth and what year they are in as it impacts on which team they go into) are January/February with a couple of December and even fewer November and one October - but the earlier ones were kids arriving from abroad and using the flexibility to "catch up"/have time to adapt.

I came into the thread thinking I would say that I've only ever come across people who regretted not deferring, but as you're talking about a September born, I'm not so sure.

Ds was (is still Wink) bright but was late to talk (3 Shock) and was also late to read (6.5 Shock- Easter of P2, despite some 1:1 sessions with the depute head at the beginning of P2) but the school were great and said some kids (especially boys) are just not developmentally ready to read until they're 6+. He was good at numbers from the start (and memorising his books to "read" them throughout P1 Hmm).

He ended up in the top set for both English and Maths at secondary (got an A for his AH Maths Smile) and is now doing a reading heavy subject at Uni Smile - so being late to read obviously didn't hold him back Grin

I think if your ds is bright, even if he's a bit hyper, school will help him learn to concentrate and focus. Being hyper might actually be made worse if he ends up being bored and anecdotally, the "bully" that ds came across at primary school (as it happens, one of his friends Confused) was the December deferral as the extra age (and height?) made him think he was "the boss" Hmm

Futureisland · 16/04/2019 19:20

I wouldn't defer a September birthday. Saying that my son is a February birthday and at first I regretted not deferring him. His p1 reports were all about him not focussing and it took him a while to form his letters neatly. Now he's in p2 though he's doing really well in school.

Lots of kids are the same in p1. Your son wouldn't be the only one who needs to learn to focus etc.

Farmerswifey12 · 16/04/2019 19:24

I wouldn't defer a September birthday either. I would consider late ones like February or March where they are near the cut off date. He could have concentration issues and be hyper because he is bored and needs more stimulation

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