School Choice Concerns

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I really don't like the vast majority of the parents at my child's school at all. They are all (maybe give or take 4/5 of them) so stuck up and I really feel like an outsider.

So I'm basically after some advice...Do you think it's best to make more of an effort to not be/feel like an outsider maybe by chatting more & grinning and bearing the cliques and snobbery?

or...

just drop off/pick up with polite hello/goodbyes thrown in and try hard to stop it bothering me.

It's a tiny rural school for a bit of context, feel like I stick out like a sore thumb it's so shit.

Is your child happy at the school? If not, then consider moving. If the child is happy, smile and wave at the other parents and don't give them another thought.

Thanks, yes they are happy there x

I think this happens often. Some people enjoy excluding others.

It's sad @Helix1244 🙁, my DC went to a preschool elsewhere but for a variety of reasons it wasn't right so we chose here instead 😫 the parents at that preschool were great and I actually keep in touch with a few, I'm not imagining it they really are awful at this school...so annoying 🙁

I think I could have written your post. I just don't fit, I've got a good 10 years on most of the parents and this doesn't help. Like you, my dd went elsewhere to pre-school and I wished she had continued at the school but it was over subscribed.

I don't think it is enough of a reason to swop schools BUT I am considering doing so because my dd has other issues at her current school. I don't think I will be much of a fit at the new one either but I do know another mother I get on very well with there, closer in age and a couple of others who are friendly, I think it would be better for dc and for me, so I am applying for a transfer next week...no doubt I will be added to a waiting list but dds current school just doesn't suit her...and it doesn't suit me.

You should not disrupt your DD because of your feelings. You always find cliques. At our school it was the Church Group, the BBC employees group, the “we have top
professional jobs group”, etc etc. You can easily feel excluded even in a big school! Eventually, getting on the PTA, helping out in school if you can and being friends with the ones you do like is the way forward. Ignore the others. Leave them to their lives.