Homework Y5 - losing patience as a parent

[DoingMyBest2010]

Should I feel bad when my DH loses his patience doing maths with my DD? I guess we've all been there? Frustration, losing patience, walking away, apologizing, make up and move on? I do the other school subjects with her (she's bright, but struggles with planning/scheduling etc).

I think he should learn to keep his patience. Why is he losing his rag so often?

It's certainly not ideal.

Why does he lose his patience? Is it because your dd is finding maths difficult and he gets frustrated because he doesn't know how to help her understand or is it for another reason eg she messes about instead of focusing on the homework?

I think it’s time for a chat with the teacher.

Why does he lose his mind literally? Is she distracted by something else whilst she is supposed to be doing her homework? Is she struggling with maths? If that is the case perhaps you should consider getting a tutor pronto.

Depends why its happening. If it's because she cant do it, then of course he needs to be more patient. If it's because she's messing about or pretending she cant do it then I'd suggest he leaves her to it.

I think it is time your child did her own homework and that you as parents just leave her to it.

If she finds it hard then the teacher needs to know that or cannot provide the appropriate help.

Stand back - it is HER homework.

If she can not do the homework without help then you need to talk to the teacher because the teacher is giving the wrong level homework. If she is using 'I don't get it' as an excuse because she doesn't want to do it that is also something for the teacher. I have given up the fight with my Year 6 girl. If the school are that bothered they can argue with her about it.

In yr5, I do think the child should be doing their homework by themselves, except for the occasional help. And if she is struggling so much that she needs help every time, I think you need to speak to the teacher and figure out what you can do to help, as well as ask for support at school.

Hi, thanks for your replies. My DD has Mensa-level IQ (we had her tested last year), she is very bright, but finds it hard to plan, schedule and break down her home work in realistic stages. That's why we help her. She is at risk of underachieving a school (she has a so called Dysharmonic Learning Profile). She has extra work at school to stop her from getting bored. She can do the work, but gets frustrated when she makes mistakes and is overly fussed over. But at the same time, she is also a child who will develop her own methods (not always right) and will question everything you explain to her. It's not that she cannot do the level of work she has, it's the planning and execution of it which throws up challenges.

Sorry, should have said my DD is 8 - extremely early pupil and we are overseas, so Y5 is probably equivalent to Y4 in UK.

Is the homework compulsory?

My ds can be hard when it comes to homework but losing patience helps no one

hi Iggly, yes it is, she has weekly tests, be it maths, geography, biology or history, or book/news article presentation:-). Schooling in NL is hard graft sometimes :-(.

And he doesn't lose patience every time, doesn't shout or slam doors, just gets frustrated.