Does anyone else find listening to their child read takes more patience than they have?

[MrBocoBurns]

I think of myself as a patient person, especially when it comes to my children. I very very rarely raise my voice, never ever smack or threaten. I'm calm. Relaxed.

So how come, since dd1 started in reception after EAster, do i find that listening to her read makes me want to fling biff and chip and kipper out of the window and scream at the walls?

She's gone up another reading level - yellows last week - yellows level 3 this week. She's doing well considering she only started this term. But she's tired and grumpy, if she can't get it straight away she starts doing this writhing with irritation thing that drives me nuts.

She gets a word wrong, we talk about it, practice it, - then on page 2, same word - she stares blankly at the page, before growling at the book and doing a headstand. Raaaah! What am i doing wrong? I need to read with her earlier before she's tired, but have my neice for hours after school and she won't concentrate until neice has gone home as they want to play.

Is it always this frustrating and such a battle?

We just did reading - (yes, late again, but had party so couldn't do it earlier) - and she gets outraged that things aren't spelt the way she thinks they should. The sentence 'everyone had a drink.' - had her shrieking - it is NOT spelt like that - it is speld CHUH - rink, NOT DUH-rink!!!

I used to pretend I was them saying, 'Don't turn over, don't turn over, let me hold it, let me look at the picture, let me read that word, do it in a proper voice, it doesn't say that etc.' until they read to me in a very cross grown up way.

Have done it in schools too. It doesn't work every time but a lot of the time it does. So does letting any handy soft toy read a bit obviously wrong so the child corrects it and feels smug. (You have to do it in the right growly squeaky quacky voice, of course, and the toy has to be bolshy and argue and be proved wrong...)

Tis knackering but lovely when they click.

(at least she is thinking about how words sound and how they are spelt).

I also find being silly can help.

Saying 'chrink, chrink...would anyone like ice in their chrink' in a slightly piss taking way.

Obviously, if your dd is sensitive, this may not be the right approach but I find with perfectionist dd (was KrustyTheClown on here last night!), that actually, making the 'mistakes' a joke and laughing about them, takes the pressure/frustation out of the situation.

aaah, i thought you were very familiar fox.

I think that actually if she's in that mood i need to totally give up - when she's shrieking chrink, she's not up for humour, she's in meltdown and fury mode. I was really calm tonight, having vented here, and left it. We read in my bed, cuddled up. But she had her bum in the air, head in my pillow, yelling that it WAS NOT RIGHT!!!

So, put her to bed and opened the wine. It's fine now.

probably tired after her party. I'm sure there's many an adult that'd rather have their bum in their air than reading out loud after a good dance.

in answer to the OP, Yes alot more.

I have no patience for it so dH does it.

Would like to see you after a party fox, you fox.

LadyT, it's good to hear that my irrational desire to fling books is not uncommon.

I'm ashamed to say I have flung books in my time. In fact, I find ds more annoying to listen to because he skips out words he doesn't know and doesn't want to go back and work them out because it disrupts the story (can see his point, but when you're missing out lots of words, you can't understand the story anyway).

By the sounds of it Boco, it's not going to take her long to catch on anyway and then it suddenly gets miles easier.