Hi. My ds is 8 a very happy and bright guy and full of questions. He has always been happy at school and his teacher this year is really nice and they are learning lots. Here is where I am not sure should I say something or let it be. Firstly I want to note here I am the mum of a special needs child my other son and understand first hand the challenges parents have around education and friends etc. My son who is 8 and at school has been friends with another boy since creche days. Initially when they started being friends I did notice the little boy was quite similar to my other son in some ways and now I know my other son was drawn to this boy probably too as a result. Anyway fast forward a couple of years, where my son is still friendly with him and he brings him to our home to play - but always with this boys older brother. I never minded that, its always lovely to have kids friends here to play. But I did start noticing that this other little boy would go off on his own and not talk or engage with my son on playdates. Leaving my son playing with the older brother. My son would tell me when he was in at this boys house he just plays video games and the boy won't play with him. So ignoring all of that I am through my own experience seeing that this little boy clearly has some needs. Confirmed recently when I brought him to the cinema and he roared when movie came on and covered his ears. He is 8 too. My son that has special needs still wears headphones to the cinema and I had a spare pair at the back of his chair so I gave them to this little boy. I was cross that the Mum didn't mention anything as he was very distressed and here is where the problem with me is.. She has never mentioned to me that her son may have some needs. Now of course its not my business, but in some ways if he is in my care on playdates it would be good to know. Plus she cannot but know my own son has needs so its not that I wouldn't understand. Then - apologies for long winded post. My son is sitting now beside this boy at school and he continues to disrupt the table my son is at and he is getting upset and doesn't want to go to school because he said he cannot concentrate as this boy keeps bothering him and taking his work and then when they are put in group work, this boy doesn't do what he is told and my son then feels he is getting in trouble and not doing well as a result. I know kids don't understand and please understand I do understand the challenges that this little fella may be facing as I watched my own son isolated and not fitting in and craving a friend. So my little son is very aware to be kind and just have a little extra patience. But this morning my son was very distressed going into school. I feel disloyal against this family - despite me not knowing anything at all if this child has additional needs per se. if I say anything to the teacher re. moving him - what kind of example is that especially when I know how cruel kids and parents are when your child may not be "normal". I understand too why they have been paired together as the boy told my son recently that his Mum asked for him to sit with him. Maybe its the Mum I should speak too and not the teacher, although I am not sure what to say after all these years and she has never said anything to me. Thanks!