Reception kids missing playtime as a punishment, but being made to sit on chairs in the of the playground at playtime......

[DrNortherner]

Is this common practice/normal/acceptable?

Smacks abit of a public flogging to me. Just wanted some other opinions on this.

Thanks guys

At dd's school they can lose some of their playtime if they are naughty. I don't think this is the first resort, but if the teacher judges it to be serious enough she will send the offender inside the classroom for ten minutes. I have no problem with this - dd's teacher is lovely and all the children adore her. I trust her judgement implicitly, she has been teaching for years and all the children have developed wondefully in the year they have been in her class. I think if you trust you child's teacher to do what is best for them, then you have to trust that the way they discipline is appropriate for the situation.

Speccy - yes, sounds reasonable - I meant that using stickers without any follow-on action.

Can I just clarify that the lifting of the girls skirt took place in school. And afterwhich they were sent to the headmaster to explain, and made to apologise to the girl in question. AS a consequence of this 'bad choice' they were told they would miss playtime, hence the sitting on chairs in the playground.

Yes my son should have been punished for his actions, I am happy with losing playtime as he adores playtime so it hits him where it hurts. I do feel though missing playtime should mean staying in school and reading or something. Not sitting in amongst your pals having fun.

Vinegar you hit the nail on the head - I do not trust my ds's teacher to amke teh best decisions for him. Tbh, she has been on his back since day 1, always sees the negative in him never the positive. This makes for a strained relationship I think.

hmmmm, would you feel the same if it was a different teacher that punished your ds Northerner?

because from your threads, you have never seen eye to eye so maybe whatever punishement was dealt out, you wouldn't have agreed with?

iyswim

and I am not a teacher but any fool can see that putting children in the playgroup, on chairs, seperate from their friends is going to result in wind ups? surely? the woman is mad

I agree with him getting some sort of punishment - ie staying in - don't think it is public humiliation (get a grip folks ) but just insane, it is just going to wind up your son and his friend even more

(did you sort out your last grievance when somone (head?) was discussing your son out of line?)

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Yes, can see how that works DrNortherner.
Dd was in an awful nursery before she joined this school, I had a completely different relationship with the staff there. I did question many of their decisions as I didn't trust them completely. Hopefully your ds will have a teacher with whom he(and you) can have a better relationship next year. It really does bring out the best in children when they have a teacher who they can count on.

Olive it was his teacher discussing his behaviour at a party when she was not even present. Raised it and moved on.

did your dh go in all guns blazing?!

can you get a new teacher next year or not?

No Olive I managed to resrain him!! He called the head instead and had a very grown up discussion

You are right, I do have a problem with his teacher and this is probabky clouding my judgement. It's so hard, because at nursery/pre school we had no bad reports the staff loved him, he wa s ajoy, he was bright and popular.

Since starting school last september there has been problem after problem after problem. She has never praised him or said well done after the end of a school day. At our meeting she said he is bright, very capable and very popular, but she is concerned he is Manipulative, bossy and disruptive.

She constantly looks stressed, huffs and puffs out of teh classroom on an afternoon and often shouts at the kids.

she sounds a charmer but then I couldn't be a teacher, must be a hard job

I would be screeching FGS every 5 mins

I think I read a thread on here where a MNer's dd's skirt was pulled up, and there was shock and outrage on her behalf.

And throwing stones is awful behaviour. Even in response to teasing.

These things would concern me more TBH.

Sorry.

Oooh, sorry. Should read the end of the thread...