I've annoyed the dc's teachers - will they take it out on them?

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I am a little worried - I eventually got to the end of my tether over things ds teacher was not doing and made a formal complaint to the Head and Governors.

Teacher will now not look at or talk to me and i am worried they will take it out on dcs

Please reassure me they will not - dh thinks they are professional enough not to, but I am the worrier

I am a primary school teacher and would certainly not vent any grievances with parents on children - I believe most of my colleagues would act in the same way.

But ... there are one or two I can think of who might do if the situation was difficult enough - not all teachers are as professional as they should be imo.

Sorry - that has probably not helped put your mind at rest at all. It is nearly the end of the school year though - will your dcs have different teachers in September?

I'm sure they won't take it out on your dcs as that would be v unprofessional- however, a formal complaint is a huge thing.

If the Head and Governors are involved it becomes very serious with lots of implications for the class teacher.

It's always best to try and resolve things with the teacher first (although I'm not implying you didn't)

What was the complaint about?

agree with the others. Teachers are usually ultra professional and have the common sense to realise that you can't blame children for their parents

• but they will probably be extra scrupulously careful with your dcs for fear of being accused of something else

Thank you all for the reassurance - it is only for another three weeks so hopefully they will be OK.

Difficult to articulate the reasons for complaint in case it is recognised, but basically to do with ds condition (he is 4 and in YR) and teacher told him she was 'too busy' to deal with it altho she had said she would.

I went to Head of Infants (who teaches dd) and he also said would make sure it was done, but still not. I suppose I lost the plot one night as I deal with all the repercussions and was venting at dh who said stop having a go at me and have a go at those whose fault it is - result letter to Head & Governors the next day before i had calmed down (oh and an email to Ofsted - double oops? )

Guess I will just have to deal with the fall out for the rest of term

Will anyone else get to know? I would hate for it to get to PTA parents (some of whom I am friends with) in a bad light

I don't really expect anything to come out of it just hopefully that they do things properly for the rest of term.

I am sure no-one outside staff room would be told about it - this would be a breach of confidentiality.

If you are worried about the bad feeling between you and the teacher/s concerned can you arrange a meeting and explain that you might have slightly over-reacted due to stress about the situation?

I'm not suggesting that you did over-react btw just that this might smooth over the issue enough to restore civil relations.

email to OFSTED! No wonder CT can't look at you.

The usual line would be speake to
Class Teacher
Head of Dept
Head Teacher

If you don't get a satisfactory result

LEA

The trouble is the higher you go the bigger a problem can become and sometimes something that could have been resolved with person 1 or 2 becomes a huge issue.

Oh - missed out SENCO on my list.
If the problem is connected to a recognised condition presumably IEPS are in place so the SENCO would be the next port of call after Class Teacher

I fantasise about the stinking letter I will send to Ofsted when my ds changes schools. I shall particularly enjoy writing about the head.... but I won't do it while ds is still in the school precisely because I worry they will take it out on him. They have made it clear how much they hate us already.

Thanks for your tact amateurmum - I am sure on reflection that I did over react

No IEP or anything yet, awaiting formal dx. I had tried to speak to the Head - made an appointment but he just got the Head of Infants to say he was too busy and could he deal with it. Trouble was he didn't - or not satisfactorily ....

Having got mad I just decided to go the whole hog all in one go ... Don't think I realised that it would be taken that seriously, just wanted them to do what they had promised and was fed up with being fobbed off

Aloha - I did it now because I read on the Ofsted website that they cannot do anything about what has happened in the past.

However, having seen some of your posts (and am glad for you that you are changing schools) there are vast differences. At least when they do talk to me they are pleasant enough and I never get the rants etc you have had for you

Not being able to see the head is appalling - maybe he/she will think twice about fobbing you off again.

It would be worth building bridges with CT tho'.

I remember years ago a parent came to me to say she couldn't make her parent eve appointment.
I told her that I would see if I had any cancellations and let her know at the end of the day.
I then explained that if no one cancelled for that evening I wouldn't be able to see her until the next week as I had other appointments every night for the rest of the week.

Half an hour later the head came down (furious) to say the woman's husband had been on the phone demanding to know why I had refused to see them. I was mortified and even after I explained it to the head I am sure she didn't believe me. The head made me phone and apologise ( I was young and newly qualified - now I would stand my ground)

As a result I spent the next few years (taught children from this family for the next 5 yrs)dreading every encounter with the Mum. In retrospect I am sure I came across as a very defensive person.

I guess what I am trying to say is it is best to try and rebuild relationship with the teahcer.

Actually hatrick what wasn't being done was relatively small, but has serious repercussions.

It just annoyed me that she was 'too busy' to do something that seems to me incredibly simple, despite having said she would (and the HoI saying the same) and even worse to tell a 4 year old that too!!!

Is there any way I can retract my Ofsted complaint at least?