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If the head teacher takes grave exception to me - is there any way that this could affect my children?

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 21:59

Dd in Reception.

Head not happy, indeed very unhappy indeed with something I am doing (for the good of the Pre-School) in my role as Chair of the Pre-School (what I am doing - I won't go into the details - reflects the unanimous decision of the Pre-School committee)

If my dd will ultimately be affected I may have to stand down as Chair (since I am not keen to proceed with implementation if there will be repercussions for my children)...

Ds isn't even at that school yet - perhaps they won't take him next year (Sept '08)? - because as a C of E school I believe that they have some choice in the matter?

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Twiglett · 14/06/2007 22:30

As far as I knew a pre-school belongs to the school it is attached to but patently you have a different situation

maybe the meeting should be an open meeting with both heads

AttilaTheMum · 14/06/2007 22:30

As a staffroom insider I can reveal that I have heard comments on the lines of 'nice kid...shame about the parents'. I have never known any teacher at our school be less than professional about a child no matter what their parents get up to. That's not to say it never happens, but it doesn't happen in a good school. If the head is the kind who would let something like this make a difference, I think you'd be aware of problems elsewhere too.
As far as admissions go, even in a church school, they would still have to follow the admissions criteria - the head doesn't get a veto.

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:30

Twig - I am going to have to write to her along those lines (tried to meet with her once before - was denied)

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:31

Twig - I really do want an open meeting with both heads of the schools. But getting them round the table? - Well!

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foxinsocks · 14/06/2007 22:32

she is probably not unhappy with you per se but with the situation. I imagine she sees this as step 1 towards the schools being merged (eventually) and you know how protective heads get over their territory (and let's face it, it's her job that may be at stake eventually).

It sounds like you're being very professional about the whole thing tbh.

Twiglett · 14/06/2007 22:32

yes an open letter offering her the opportunity to view the exact problems and make suggestions

if she can't solve the issue then really she has made the decision herself hasn't she?

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:32

Attila - lol, I can imagine.

Dd is quite charming and ds too - so hopefully that will apply to them

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foxinsocks · 14/06/2007 22:33

I meant professional in a good way!

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:33

Thanks foxin - I think we do need to try to continue to be squeaky clean and professional in the way that we are behaving.

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:35

lol - just re-read your post ahundredtimes where you said "these rural issues are a bit beyond" - you great big urbanite you!

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ahundredtimes · 14/06/2007 22:35

lol @ foxy getting nervous.

All will be well handlemecarefully. You're setting a precedent after all of living in village b, having dcs at pre-school if it moves to village b and sending dcs to school in village A.

Glory, if they do merge I do hope that village C doesn't get in on the act. I'm barely keeping up as it is.

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:35

"..beyond me.."

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:36

and lol again

You never know, village C might but in a late appearance, it's a pity it's not lambing season (to distract them all)

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:37

.."put"

Blardy hell - what is it with my and typos today

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ahundredtimes · 14/06/2007 22:37

It's proabably all that fresh air. . . .

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:39

..and green spaces

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foxinsocks · 14/06/2007 22:40

I'm very nervous now after cod shouted at me.

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handlemecarefully · 14/06/2007 22:40

What today? Did she?

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ahundredtimes · 14/06/2007 22:42

Ah, yes, what was that about again? Oh, because you told her and dh to have a LONG TALK. lol

foxinsocks · 14/06/2007 22:44

I didn't even suggest a long talk. Just a Talk, with a capital T. Perhaps that was my mistake.

ahundredtimes · 14/06/2007 22:49

Yes a lower case t isn't nearly so bad. She was kidding with you, you know this right? I can't see you, I have no idea whether you're smiling or not.

foxinsocks · 14/06/2007 22:52

lol, yes, I'm not one who takes offence (but how sweet of you to defend her!). Was just taking the arthur bliss.

ghosty · 14/06/2007 22:53

HMC ... I would be very concerned if there was any possibility that ANY headteacher would have a problem with the child of a person that was the head/chairperson of another educational establishment.
It isn't YOU is it? But it is the SITUATION she is against ... if she were to make this an issue with your children (your son't future place at the school) then you should think about whether you want your children there ...
IMO.
I had a very difficult head at the last school I taught at - difficult on many many counts and he was a complete git as a boss - but he never ever let an issue with a parent affect the children of that parent.

ahundredtimes · 14/06/2007 22:54

Weeel wasn't really defending her, was more wondering whether I might need to smooth things over! I'm telling you I find MN emotionally exhausting. I'm going down to village A and village B tomorrow to further share my new found diplomacy skills.

BishyBarneyBee · 14/06/2007 22:59

you can always write things in the letter like 'acting on bhealf of the comittee...' 'due to a unanminuous decision by the whole committee...' or even ask for them all to sign it.

Dont think you need to worry TBH

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