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Bad mouthing school

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Village48 · 13/10/2018 18:16

My children go to school a few miles away from Harrow. We have a year group what's app group. One of the mums is posting nasty things about the school and the staff and is effectively spying at playtimes.
Should I tell the school?

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Moneydoesntgrowontrees · 13/10/2018 18:21

Is she getting replies? Is this a general opinion or just hers?

TheSteakBakeOfAwesome · 13/10/2018 18:50

Is she spying or is she just happening to walk past at playtime? I occasionally do the latter, and on one occasion at least have seen something I wasn't best impressed with and let school know - but that's not spying and I'm buggered if I'm taking a massive detour around a school exclusion zone to get to the post box!

user789653241 · 13/10/2018 19:20

I think it's not nice. How you have seen it doesn't really matter, either if they are actively trying to seek out or just happened to see it. First thing they should do is talk to the teacher/school, before slagging off on internet.
And yes, if I came across that, I would mention it to the teacher. Saying nasty thing about staff is particularly not nice, if they are sharing among parents.

Allice · 13/10/2018 19:34

There are parents what's app groups at the school my kids go to, it's basically a massive bitch fest that I had to come off.
Can't hurt to tell the school but guess there is little they can do.

Starlight345 · 13/10/2018 19:37

Are there actual concerns or a bitch fest?

Moneydoesntgrowontrees · 13/10/2018 19:51

Our what’s app group is v polite with no bitching! The worst you get is the odd parent trying to rope people into going to their friend’s ticketed event or buy millions of raffle tickets.

I’m surprised the bitchy parent puts their name to it, why doesn’t she change schools?

April2020mom · 13/10/2018 19:53

Yes but tread carefully here. Politely suggest changing schools immediately. I’m not sure if they’re able to do much in response to your complaint.

RavenWings · 13/10/2018 19:54

If she's libelling the staff, I think you should let the Head know. They can warn her and if necessary limit her access to staff and the school.

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Village48 · 13/10/2018 19:56

No one is responding. No concerns at the school. Mum is “passing” very frequently and says in her message that she parks from lunchtime onwards to watch.

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Nicknamesalltaken · 13/10/2018 20:04

Urgh, we had this. A private Whatsapp group and caused no end of trouble spreading misinformation and bad mouthing the school.

If no one is joining in the leave them to it.

Moneydoesntgrowontrees · 13/10/2018 20:07

Weird. What is she trying to achieve?

If she has concerns she should go to the head.

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Village48 · 13/10/2018 22:31

Not sure what she’s trying to achieve. It’s a private school and you get to look round before you need to think about joining so why now moan about facilities etc when you know what you chose to send your children to!

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FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 13/10/2018 22:36

Oh god there was a mum like this at DC's school (small indie) she never stopped moaning that there wasn't a swimming pool. There's never been a pool, never been any suggestion they were going to build one. Someone asked her why she didn't choose a school with a pool and she said she didn't look round schools just chose this one because it was closer. She eventually did move - I still see her at birthday parties sometimes. She complains no end about the new school!

If everyone's ignoring her I'd do the same - she does sound very odd - parking up all lunch time to spy? If she's so unhappy just move schools!

Moneydoesntgrowontrees · 13/10/2018 22:42

Well she’s not making herself any friends is she?!

Could there be any truth in her bitching? She ought to take her complaints to the school, not try and rally an army of parents to do it for her (if that is what she is trying to do).

MidniteScribbler · 14/10/2018 03:38

We had one like that on the school Facebook page, except that she actually named children who she didn't like, accusing them of being disruptive in class, and naming teachers that she didn't think were 'tough' enough on those children (actively ignoring that many of those children had diagnosed behavioural conditions or were dealing with being taken into foster care and removed from their families). There are several teachers who are also parents on the facebook group. Let's just say, she and her child were walked out of the school premises an hour after it hit the Principal's desk.

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 14/10/2018 08:41

Bloody hell midnite she sounds so nasty! Glad the school got rid!

itsjustmebeingme · 14/10/2018 08:48

We have a similar what’s app group and one mum was starting to moan about how her son was being treated (she’s a known pain in the arse!) and someone very politely wrote....hi X, I think it’s best for you to chat to the teachers about any concerns and we leave this group just for chatting. Hope everything gets sorted.

She’s not said anything more about it, and others have followed suit, no negativity or bitching about school of teachers.

Nicknamesalltaken · 14/10/2018 09:09

I guarantee the HT, teachers and governors will be aware.

Write to your HT and tell them what you like about the school. Suggest to others they do the same.

Believe me, it counteracts the negativity x1000.

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Village48 · 14/10/2018 17:21

I think a message like itsjustmebeingme suggests is prob a good idea or maybe just ignore. I’ve had children at the school for a good number of years and have always found it easy to talk to teachers if I had a concern. Don’t really get what she’s trying to achieve and she can always take her children out of the school if she’s now decided that she doesn’t like it!

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