Dc off ill for 1 week - don't want to go back.

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My 2 dc were off last week and first part of this week with sore throats , they weren't really suffering but I thought I might as well keep them off to fully recover and I did some school work with them anyway at home.
Today I took them back, you would have thought I was sending them to be locked up in a workhouse they looked miserable. I know ds dislikes school as his class teacher is useless and he gets very bored but dd usually enjoys her school day as she has a good teacher and plenty of girls to play with. Are your dc also fed up at having to go back after a week off ?

ds doesnt like going back after being poorly. He has had a lots of time off with recurring tonsilitis. Once he is there tho he is fine.

I know I used to get butterflies as a child going to school the first day after being poorly myself - worried I'd missed something and be left out or something like that I suppose.

I think it is the school admylin. Well, you know I think that after all my mails! I went to school happily at their age, all the different schools I went to and I was off sick a lot with tonsilitis. It's hard to make them go to school when you're sure they'd be better off at home, isn't it?

That was at the back of my mind too SSandy2, I did explain to ds that he can't stay off forever even if I did let him have 2 days more than he really needed. Poor dd has gone back to a day of maths tests that she didn't know about. They are starting to do evaluation tests in all Berlin schools in year 2 to compare standards etc.

The cynic in me thinks you are too nice when your DC are ill...mine have to be tucked up in bed if they are unwell and off school...so they can't wait to go back!

I know, you're right I'm guilty of that but then for example I see that on Monday ds missed nothing worth going in for and tuesday was over 30 degrees and they were supposed to go out on a walk all morning, I just thought I'd occupy him betetr at home. He did some geometry with me that he has never done in school yet and he loved it so much that he sat for an extra hour doing angle measurments.
In our case, if home schooling was legal here, we'd be doing it because school is often a waste of time.

I think you've answered your own question - going to boring school or stay at home and do really interesting things with mummy?

It is hard I know and my position is not the same as yours. It is just I have watched a friend pander on hand and foot when when her kids were feeling unspecified ill and now she struggles to get them to school at all. Her DS is always off and there is nothing wrong with him - he just prefers to lie on the couch wathcing TV and playing PC games whilst mummy bakes nice things for him . If my DC are really ill then I am lovely but any hint of malingering and I'm very unsympathetic.

Yes, I used to be like you when they went to the old school, even my neighbour said I was tough on them but I knew that from my childhood - we were never allowed to stay off if we were fit enough to go back and I knew ds would miss loads of work if he stayed off.
Ds was never off unless he was really ill - and he knows he isn't allowed TV or Nintendo ds if he's off ill anyway. It's since we've been at this new school that he has some days when he comes out of school and says it was so boring, it was a waste of time etc. Anyway, when I've picked them up I'll see how much work he's missed as I wrote on his sick note that they should please give me all the work he has missed and I will work through it at home with him. I bet, he'll come home with hardly anything.

Can't blame him if school is so dull. It's the same with adults with dull jobs...Can you do "extension" work with him to keep his interest up etc?