teacher comments 'grow up'

[katpla]

Having concerns about sons newly qualified teacher.
He told my 9 year old son 'oh just grow up'

After a disagreement with another pupil over a correct answer sir shouted (ok fine, if need be) and when son tried to explain he was told to just grow up.

I've also heard he used the phrase 'what the hell.....'
I find this to be inappropriate at this age and am concerned the damage this sort of language/communication will have on my sensitive sons confidence.

Any thoughts?

I had this when I was in school. I coloured some garden drawing in the wrong colour for grass or something ridiculous. The teacher called me stupid, told me to grow up, forced me to stay back after class and miss my lunch to colour in a fresh picture. I was 8. Surprisingly I’m now a successful visual artist so jokes on her I think it’s a bit mean. I wouldn’t tell anyone to grow up unless they’re being immature. Children are immature, they’re not mature adults. If they were arguing the teacher should have simply told them not to argue

Sadly I know that and resilience is something we and previous teachers have also worked on and continue to do. Again another reason though why it's important to have a good relationship with his teacher.
Oh and my comments to him about all this are far different!

You have no idea how your son behaves in class op. Literally none.

I would make sure your sons account of what was said is accurate first.

I don't really think teachers should be saying things like 'just grow up.' I think there are better ways for teachers to speak to the children and it sounds a bit lazy.

As for saying 'what the hell', I don't think that's appropriate. Our school wouldn't let the children say this so I don't think they would be ok with the teachers saying it.

It's language many of us probably use at home but not whilst working with children.

Actually some kids don’t misbehave in the classroom (although they do at home.)

Grow up is OK in context. A bit dismissive but not the end of the world.

Oh God. We tell our Year Fives to grow up and stop acting like reception children. Can't say I've ever had a complaint in the four years I've been teaching. Sometimes they really do need to grow up.