I don't know if that's the right word but it seems DS1 (Y5) is the schools 'golden child'. He's definitely not the best student, behind in most subjects and is in some sort of trouble most days, theres no excuse he could try harder and do much better. But he's still picked to do absolutely every though, always given one the main parts, picked to do a solo, asked to help out showing people around, give a speech, go on a trip etc.
The school is doing an event advertising all the different clubs they run and where students can sign up for them and DS has been asked to preform gymnastics there. He doesn't even do gymnastics at school and when he did for a few months half way through last year he was kicked out for bad behaviour. They obviously should have picked a child who is actually in the club and who has behaved well so deserves to perform.
I don't really know what to do, he wants to do it and I dont want to take the opportunity away from him now he's been asked but I know its its not fair on the other kids. Other parents already notice he's always picked and I would be annoyed if I was a parent of any of the other kids in the club who didn't get picked. I'm sure the kids will notice it too soon and I don't want him to get picked on or loose friends over it.
It also probaby doesn't help his behaviour at school that no matter what he does he will still get rewarded and picked to do the fun stuff, he has no motivation to try harder and earn these rewards when they're just handed to him.