Anxious DD starting school tomorrow

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DD1 is starting school tomorrow. She is very anxious generally but had been okay about starting school. Today she was very fractious but I didn't know if that was from being overtired after spending the weekend with her Dad. She just woke up crying and saying she's worried about school. I planned a lovely day for us for today but she didn't seem to enjoy it because she was so worked up for much of it and I have things planned for tomorrow after she finishes school as she's only in for the morning. I just hope she's okay with it all. I don't really have a question, just wonder if anyone can offer some words of support.

She will be fine. Mine also starting. It is a huge thing for them. Once they get in and do all their lovely activities it will be ok..That said I am finding it hard to sleep myself.

Before DC1 started school we had a terrible summer in terms of his behaviour, wouldn't talk about school, no interest in anything to do with school etc. By the end of his first week he was annoyed weekends meant he couldn't be at school and totally in love with his teacher and school. It's a big step for them (and you!) but I'm sure once she's there she'll settle.

Thank you both. I hope you're right. She'd been so okay about it, as had I, but now reality has set in it seems to be getting to both of us!

She was born premature and at one point I remember sitting in NICU wondering if she'd ever make it out, let alone go to school. I can't believe this day is finally here. She's come so far. I hope she enjoys tomorrow, or at least doesn't hate it.

How did it go OP?

How did it go OP, ? I feel like the worst mum in the world today my DS started school this morning, drop off did not go well. He had extra settling in sessions before the end of last term and i know i shouldnt have told my DS a little white lie this morning I feel terrible. He said he didn't want to go, wouldnt put his uniform on. So i said we would go and tell his teacher he wasn't staying !! I didn't know what else to do or say... He's my first so no experience. He was very upset at school when I left him

The vast majority of children who are upset on day 1 or a bit beyond don’t stay upset. Have you visited a YR in school where every other child is upset? No, you have not. They don’t stay upset. It’s a temporary feeling and they generally get to like school.

I don’t think you can pretend he won’t go or won’t stay. I have always believed in honesty and give children the reasons why it’s good to stay! They cannot always have what they want either, so don’t dangle options that don’t exist. 4/5 year olds are immature children stating a want but without any knowledge of the good things that school entails. You are the adult that needs to keep explaining why school is important and he will enjoy it! I don’t think lying ever helps.