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Dd hurt at school deliberately- any advice on dealing with the school pls?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 06/05/2018 09:02

Dd injures on Friday I was called to say she’d hurt her nose and under her eye but fine.
When I picked her up I was told by TA that dd had ran into two older girls (yr 1) playing with a skipping rope, and that they had refused to apologise so had to go to head.
Dd told me when she got home the girls had ran into her and once they’d hurt her left her on the fall until she could find help. One of the girls is from dance club who has been told off twice for being mean to dd and once during school.
I rang head up and explained that although I was told dd ran into them she is adamant they ran into her and also there is a history with one of these girls. Head said she’d look into it.
Dd’s Injuries over weekend look worse than on Friday I think the one on her nose may scar now. Plus other parents in older years have now told me stories about school covering up bullying episodes down to playing accidents which feels like this may Happen.
So if head is ineffective what do I do? Approach governors etc? Complete newbie appreciate any help thanks

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Wishfulmakeupping · 06/05/2018 09:34

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soapboxqueen · 06/05/2018 10:16

Let the head investigate and see what they say.

From what you have said, I'm not sure how you think it was deliberate. Your dd said they ran into her which could just as easily be an accident as anything else. Five and six year olds do tend to play without looking. Leaving her on the ground isn't great but again they are only little and might not have noticed or not wanted to get into trouble.

If there have been incidents in another setting, you can of course inform the head but it won't necessarily have any impact on what happened in this situation.

There could of course be an issue with bullying not being fully recognised at this school but you will find parents who consider the school to have been at fault in every school in the land. Every single one. One incident does not equal bullying.

RedSkyAtNight · 06/05/2018 11:46

Yes, I'd wait for the head to investigate as well. There's simply no evidence here that there was any bulling. The running into her could easily be accidental (and a case of both parties not looking where they were going). I don't suppose she was on the floor for very long - the average infants playground is generally pretty small and someone would have noticed very quickly! And it's possible that the two girls actually went off to find help - no way your DD would have known.

elefunk · 06/05/2018 12:00

Keep a log of it just incase.
DSis was bullied in primary, it was unfortunately not taken seriously until my DM produced a binder of every incident.
(Admittedly, the school handled it terribly and it had been going on two years at this point.)

user1955 · 06/05/2018 12:01

Some good advice, especially from Witchend on your query about this in chat.

user789653241 · 06/05/2018 14:06

I think this is really difficult. Children in yr1 are still very young children. They are still learning social skills. Yes it's possible they are mean to your child, but may not really understand what it mean to be mean. Like pp says, I would wait until HT investigates. Talk to the teachers. Ask them to monitor the situations. And see how it goes, before taking it further.

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