Personality clash between ds's teacher and northerner!

[DrNortherner]

I don't like her she doesn't like me. It's ovbious.

WE have had issues in the past. I am always polite and civil to her. Ds has a report card with smily/sad faces for each part of the day so I can monitor his day.

Whenever his teacher is not there he gets all smiley faces, when she is there he seems to play up and she relishes in telling me.

Yesterday he made 'bad choices' as she calls them by calling some other children poo poo head. I asked where his smiley face chart was she said 'I haven't got round to doing one today' then snapped 'I am working VERY hard you know' and flounced off.

Today he had his regular supply teacher awho he adores and got all smiley faces. There feedback has always been so much more positive.

I want to approach her about it. Any sugesstion sof how to handle it much appreciated, perhaps from fellow teachers?

Ds is just 5 btw.

hi northener am not sure what to say sorry but bump

I remember your threads about her before.

Why does she say "bad choices". He's 5 fgs.

I don't believe in the daft sad faces anyway, but then it's all a matter of opinion.

In dd's school there is a pupil of the week badge, it is given to children for lots of reasons, not just for academic work. Eg: A little girl got it last week as she had did her homework all week, some weeks she doesn't do it at all..so rewarding her might make her see she should do it every week. Another week a little girl got it as she taught the class all about baby spiders etc...

I'm not sure how I would fell towards dd if she kept getting sad faces with her teacher & happy ones with everyone else. Do you think your ds can pick up the dislike between the teacher & yourself?

OMG! My DS had a teacher very much like this one. Watch her very carefully; if she doesn't like your DS she could get very nasty to him! I don't know exacly how to approch it, but I was always meek and agreed with the teacher. I think this is where I went wrong.

Northerner - Children call each other names all the time. I bet none of the other children who called a child a name that week got a sad face anywhere near them. Imo if a child is having such a chart then really things are not so good should only be recorded if they are an extreme of the norm.

If I have to see parents and report bad stuff I only comment on stuff that would warrant speaking to a parent for any other child. Children are not robots and cannot and should not be expected to behave perfectly all day.

Roll on next year for your ds.

Any sane teacher would have over looked the poo poo head calling, IMO.

Thaks for the replies guys.

FF - no way does ds know I don't like his teacher. I have never moaned about her in front of him. I don't think it would be good for him to know.

I am torn between chatting to her about how I feel or biting my tongue as come SEptember he will have a new teacher who I have high hopes for as I have heard lots of positive comments about her.

His current teacher is very intimidating and rather large, she shouts alot in the class room. I know my ds can be a handful, but he is simply not reacting to her at all for whatever reasons.

A whole term is a long time in your c's life.