How do I raise this without being 'that' parent

[Dottie39]

DD is in year 5. She is bright and enthusiastic, by no means a genius but works hard so reaps the rewards of that.

So far this school year she has floated through, I went through this half terms spellings which she already knew. I supervise her homework and she sails through it without effort. When I ask her what she finds difficult at school she said 'nothing'. Her reading age is 12.5 (age 9).

I have helped her find more challenging books to read, and done some more advanced maths but am worried I will confuse her with outdated methods so am considering getting a tutor.

It's parents evening next week. I want to point out that I don't think my DD is being challenged without being that parent and making the teacher feel I am critical of her.

(I have had run ins when she taught DD previously and didn't intervene when she watched DD being bullied so already feel she is icey with me... )

How can I approach this?

I’d leave it, she sounds like where she should be.

To add my son is in p7 now so high school next year and he’s breezed through the whole of primary school without batting an eyelid. I’ve never been tempted to “push” him. There will be enough of that when he gets to high school.

You are being 'that parent'. My DD's reading age was 13 in yr 5. This is very normal with articulate children whose parents read to them.

The best thing you can do is encourage love of learning and reading and self-confidence.

There is so much more to education than high marks. I feel for schools dealing with all this middle class angst. Can never win.