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New school, new negative/violent behaviour

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LFWL · 25/09/2017 21:52

We moved to a new area at the end of last term. My son had been to a London primary school for all of Nursery and the majority of Reception, it was a very positive experience, he was happy and had made good friends, behaviour had not been an issue. He started at the new school for last two weeks of Reception. It wasn't a great two weeks, there were days he said he didn't want to go, on two occasions he came home with unexplained injuries and he sat and cried during sports day. All of this I put down to it being a shit time to move but I did have reservations about the school, it's in a much tougher area than we were in before and I'd been a bit shocked by overhearing what some of the parents were saying to eachother and their children. This term things haven't improved. Obviously I'm biased but I think my son is a pretty gentle little boy and has never been rough or interested in rough play. He is suddenly attacking his younger brother - pinning him down on the floor, hitting and kicking him with such violence and anger. After the first incident I tried to talk through this behaviour, he said that one of the boys in his class is too rough with him. He had hurt my son in the playground, he'd told his teacher and she'd given the boy time out. When I spoke to the teacher she said he hadnt told her anything (should I worry about lying too?!) but said she'd keep an eye as this boy was quite rough, and several of the boys copy his behaviour. Since then she's told me my son is being rough, getting told off by other teachers in the playground for rough and tumble and today she'd seen him putting his hand in someone's face and he's still attacking his brother, as well as other shitty behaviour (which I can tolerate and put down to new school, the change from Recpetion to Year 1 etc) but I'm really saddened by the more violent behaviour at school and home. I get the feeling he's in a tough year group at a tough school and can't help feeling he's copying what's going on at school. I know boys will fight and it was going to happen. Am I being ridiculous to want him to move schools to a more genteel (middle class) area - therefore making me a snob too...... Obviously posh kids fight too! Most of the middle class families in our area send their kids to primary or private schools out of the area as the local school has a bad reputation........ Thanks for reading this!

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Wilberforce42 · 27/09/2017 12:54

I'd move him. His happiness is more important than being deemed snobby by others. Can he move somewhere else now or will he have to go on a waiting list?

2014newme · 27/09/2017 12:57

I'd move him. Why did you choose this school over the other options?

LFWL · 27/09/2017 19:57

Thanks both for your replies. I went to look at another school today which has space and much more boys in the year group. It was also really good to talk to the head of a different school, she advised talking to the Head of his current school to see what they can do to help him. We've had a calmer few days and I'm talking to his teacher again tomorrow. It's good to know he can move if things don't improve!

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