We have generally been using your last strategy but when there are SO MANY words he can't yet sound out - and which don't have the "yellow" phonemes in them - it gets a bit ridiculous "that word's a bit hard for you... so's that one... and that one... OK that's a tricky word you know, can you remember it? OK now give this word a go.
Exactly. If it's the odd word, you can just circle it in pencil and keep going. If it is a lot of the words, it is frustrating and demoralizing for kids. And it encourages them to start guessing and memorizing their way through books.
This discussion is so strange. It almost seems unreal. Limiting a child's reading by adhering to a rigid rule that requires a child to only read books through a scheme and nothing else.
I'm afraid there have to be some limits on what they can read when they can only read some words and not others. Kind of like, you don't take a child who can only barely swim a little bit and just chuck them in the deep end of the swimming pool without anything inflatable.
There is nothing to stop parents reading any books they like TO children, in fact they should do this as much as possible ("real books"). And when there are little bits in your "real books" which you know they can actually manage, you can pause and ask them to read that word or that sentence, no problem.
But non-decodable B&C graded readers are such a waste of time because they don't actually fulfill either role!
They frustrate kids who are trying to learn to read.
And they also are not wonderful exciting stories full of rich vocabulary, so nobody with a brain would bother to "share" them with kids just for the sake of listening to the story.