Reception bad behaviour

[scottishclive]

hi,

our DS just started reception this week and we have had a few comments from the teacher about his pushing / kicking other kids. Three incidents in the first 4 days. He is 4 and half and has been in nursery for a couple of years so is pretty used to being around lots of other kids. In nursery he did have a few incidents of pushing, but not for the last while.

So wondering if this is due to the settling in period / all new environment or signs of an underlying problems. He does have a new baby in the house as well, which might have unsettled him.

Obviously are telling him right from wrong and suitable punishments (removal of toys / no TV etc), but wanted to see what else is a good plan.

Thanks

I think he's just got a lot of 'new' going on and it can sometimes result in poor behaviour as a reaction to anxiety.
I think as long as you are dealing with the bad behaviour as you normally would then he will settle down in a couple of weeks. If your ds school is anything like dds there is a lot of half days, kids in at different times, new names to learn. It's just a bit chaotic for some!

School will be dealing with it in the moment, which is the main thing. Can you talk to him about what circumstances he's ending up pushing and hitting in? I know there are no excuses but there are usually triggers e.g. someone taking a toy he was playing with, someone chasing him when he didn't want to play, or thinking he's "playing fighting". Depending on why he's doing it then you can talk about better ways to react in the same situation next time. I don't personally think that punishing at home for school misbehaviour is necessary for a 4 yr old. You can make it clear it was a mean thing to do without piling trouble on trouble. I'd ask the teacher what circumstances he was hitting in too. The more information you have the more you can help.

Many thanks for the responses.

Seems like at least one of the incidents was due to the other child not wanting to play with DS and he getting annoyed. So guess main this is to teach him how to deal with such situations and appropriate responses.