None yet old not trying

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Any advice please? Nine year old DD won't try with homework or read at home. I have tried everything I can think of. She finds writing hard -spelling and handwriting- and has interventions at school but still makes no progress, very behind now.

My hunch is she finds it hard and has given up. She won't do her homework or accept help. I don't know how to help her.

Sorry - the title is supposed to say "Nine year old not trying"

Given her difficulties is the homework reasonable? Try setting a time limit using a kitchen timer of 10 minutes per subject. Do the writing for her but get her participation orally. If you explain to the school they should be able to accept that this is a stage on the way to getting more participation from your daughter.
With reading you may have to get creative. Select words from the reading book; print pictures and words seperately tell her to match them up. Praise when task is completed.
Select short sentences and print words separately. Read each word and ask her to form a sentence with them.
Read the book aloud then ask her questions.
Go onto website called Topmarks education. It has lots of games and activites for reading.
pm me if you want more ideas.

Thanks so much for replying. I would say the homework's often too hard, which may have put her off previously. Tonight's is reasonable if I try to break it down for her but she won't let me and is huffing and puffing.

The homework is copying sentences and putting in correct grammar. She copies words very inaccurately, with messy writing and poor grammar. Do you think I should write it for her and just ask the grammar rules, which is the main aim of the homework?

Her reading ability isn't that bad but she misses out and Mis-reads words by accident. She's switched off and won't let me read to her either, which she used to at least enjoy.

I'll look at Topmarks website and try these tips, thank you.

either copy the sentence for her and let her tell you where to correct the grammar or suggest she types it out using word processing. When she misses out or misreads words does it still make sense? Ifit does I'd be tempted to let it be. tell the school homework is too hard and ask for it to be modified.
On the topmarks site check out Starfall Learn to Read; my Online Reading; Sttorybird; Deduction and any others. Put the programme up and let her get on with it without supervision. She can find and select others if she is interested. Happy to keep in contact.

My homework advice (other than 'dont stress' which is impossible) is to find an older child who will help once or twice to show them how to approach it. In my DC eyes their parents are old and don't understand anything about school work. Much more receptive to an older child who will help. Or even a different adult to their parent.

If no alternative person, have a glass of wine while you help.

Good luck.

Has her school assessed her for dyslexia? It sounds to me like she is dyslexic and it may be that she needs different strategies to help her. I would have a word with her teacher/ the SENCO. Have you looked at Apples and Pears-a spelling programme. I have started it with my ( I suspect) dyslexic son. He finds it boring but it is massively helping. I have another child with a diagnosis of dyslexia. She is no longer behind- but she does sometimes miss words out still when she reads.

one of mine undoubtably has some sort of learning issue but school aren't interested. anyway I digress. as a result of that I have had to work out our own ways of doing things to enable her to cope and progress.

Yes I would do the writing for her. I would then put a note with it stating what you did, why, what support she had etc.

I would also get her eyes checked - my daughter has a very slight astigmatism which causes her huge issues completely out of proportion for the size of the prescription.