Behaviour of child in DD's class

[Angrycrisplady]

Since starting p3 my dad has returned home on a nearly daily basis saying there is a boy in her class who kicks children, calls them names, pushes in queues etc. Have flagged it up, in writing, to school with no response saying I wanted to bring this to their attention before it escalates. Today she came home saying that the boys punched and strangled a little girl in her class. Does this happen at all schools? I suspect our HT favours nurturing over discipline... the school twitter feed has that quote from
Annette Breaux about learning the cause of misbehaviour will break out hearts etc. I get that, I do, but I can not have my daughter exposed to this kind of aggression. I am really upset and worried that my DD might be next. I think this boy and his older sibling have had a reputation for this sort of behaviour since p1. How do I deal with this effectively?

I have some experience of this. They have a duty to the boy but they also have a duty to safeguard your little girl too.

That said while you can express your concerns there will or should be things going on with intervention and ed psych etc and that they just can't tell you.

And of course if it is your child directly affected then that makes it slightly different. While there are still things they will be unable to tell her the Mum of the little girl attacked has every right to sit and expect answers in regards to what they are doing to ensure the safety of her dd from now.

If I was you I would absolutely mention dd being upset by x behaviour and being worried about being hurt.
I would expect them to reassure you they are taking action.

Thanks. Have called the school and made an appointment. I imagine there will be services involved with the boy, and things going on at home. All of which is (rightly) none of my business. But his behaviour is my business if it's affecting my child's safety and ability to learn... how did things work out for you?

I actually have experience of three different cases, two involving my child and one in a school I worked as a TA in.

Child one was expelled after kicking children in the face, smashing a Tv with a remote, climbing on to a cupboard and throwing all the books and things at the children below and then attempting to smash a metal trike on to a child's head. He had a lot of issues relating to the death of a parent and needed more help and security than they could offer. :(

Child two who attacked my child (bit her legs and arms and punched her in the stomach and trapped her in corners was eventually found a place in the special school system.

Child three in a school I worked in spent the whole of primary daily attacking children with an ineffective ed psych who said we should not remove him from the classroom even when he was attacking people. I left but as far as I know he was still doing this in year 6 before going to secondary.

Jeez... that's terrible. Sorry you've all been through that.